My Entry To The Ladies Of Hive Contest #56
"Okay, so this week the ladies of the hive would like to know if I would forgive and accept back someone who cheated on me?"
I'll probably have said say no because it's common sense to know that a partner who can cheat once would probably do it a second and third time as the case may be but when I gave this question a bit more thought and allowed room for the occasional gray spot if the situation isn't completely black or white I will go with a maybe depending on the situation surrounding the act.
In a situation that my partner cheated let's take two different instances that lead to it and what my personal decision would be in both cases.
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He gets in bed with some random girl, maybe an ex or some girl he currently has the hots for and this was two adults consensually getting intimate and he tries to hide this escaped from me in the hope I would never find out, in a situation like that I will not be able to forgive because this was something he did with eyes wide open and without consideration for my feelings.
That he was comfortable enough to cheat in the first place while in a supposedly committed relationship means it's more likely to happen again and probably again and again if I choose to put up with it because a cheater will ALWAYS cheat.
Rather than stay hoping for the best which would probably most likely just be a waste of my time and energy, I'll choose to just move on and let it burn.
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Take a situation where my partner went out with some friends for a few drinks on a boys night out then somewhere along the line some girl who has a thing for him or maybe the infamous ex-girlfriend who isn't completely over him shows up and somehow someway she gets access to his drink, adds a bit of 💊 he takes the drink 🥴 and they ended up doing the do 🛏
In a situation like this would it be fair if I decided not to forgive my partner?
He never cheated on me consciously so as long as by the time he got back to his senses he had the mind to be straight up with me and tell me what happened then yes I would be able to forgive and try to make my relationship work as long as this 'mistake' isn't a reoccurring one.
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I just had to say something about this even though I originally intended to answer just one question 😊
When I'm sad I'm not good company for anyone so those times I prefer to be on my own.
I've always found music to be super therapeutic so I'll usually just grab my headphone 🎧 and let the music calm me which it never falls to do.
A nice long walk also would be the second-best thing for me when I'm feeling down or out, just walk around a bit and it's even better if I get to take my headphone with me on my walk🎶
So here is my entry for this weeks ladies of hive contest 🏁 and I would like to use this opportunity to invite @mimtan to join this contest and let's know what your opinions are on the questions for this week and happy writing ladies 🥂
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Ah... it has to be qualified, so it depends on the situation.
You have a big heart!
Thanks for sharing, @princessj190
Good luck with the contest.
“Friendship means understanding, not agreement. It means forgiveness, not forgetting. It means the memories last, even if contact is lost.” — Author Unknown
Thank you so much 🤗 and yes I do believe the decision to forgive or not forgive a cheating partner should depend not just on the act but the how and why as well 👍
In this we are alike, music is also therapeutic for me, I can't conceive of a day without listening to music.
🥳🥳🥳 for the music lovers club 🎵 glad to know there are more hivers like me who have come to appreciate some of the deeper uses of music,I'm with you right there!!!i LOVE my music.
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Thank you for sharing. 🙂
Thank you for taking the time to read it 🤗
Most welcome 😊and thank you once again for sharing. Have a great day.
I to find walking a great way to relax and clear my mind
I think that’s a good answer to this question nothing is ever totally black and white and as you say it would all depend on the circumstances
Walking can clear ANY unpleasant mood and yes I choose the 'depends on the situation' answer to this question because I believe there should be room for consideration in a relationship based on the situation.
Thank you so much for reading and letting me know what you think 👍
A pleasure to read your post
😂 Your second situation was very funny but for sure such situations happen so it's wise to be such of which situation to know if to forgive or not.
Music have a way of making hearts go soft and calm when one is sad. Nice choice for driving away your bad mood.
Nice entry, got here through @dreemport
That's so true 👍 I mean if we decide to not forgive a crime not considering the situation that lead to it just doesn't seem fair to me so although it would hurt but I will choose not to be impulsive.
Thank you so much for reading and taking time out to share your opinion 🙏
Yeah, you're welcome dear
Keep Hiving!
Congrats, your post is so funny for you second situation. Very good work. Happy day!
Thank you so much 🙂 pleased you like my answer to the question and for reading, have a great week.
I see you gave it a lot of thought and that second one... LOL
I can totally relate to walks and music :D
#DreemPort
Lol yeah I was trying to imagine a situation where the act wasn't done consciously and that popped up 😊 thanks for reading and glad you enjoyed it.
Great entry for the contest.. Am glad you didn't restrict the first answer to just a scenario because the two scenarios can occur. I would advice that no one should make a quick and rash decision in cases like this because any decision taken might make or mar the person's future.
I think that most people love to be alone when they are angry.. I believe that's the best way to get over the anger..
@dreemport directed me to your post
The second scenario is my version of a gray area, never be too hasty when making decisions as that would save everyone a lot of unnecessary stress in the long run 🙏 glad you liked my answers and thank you for taking time out to read it.
I can totally relate with your answers. There the possibility of the person In the first scenario cheating again
Your completely right because if he was able to do it in the first place without any consideration for my feelings or our relationship, he is must likely going to do it again and that's why I wouldn't waste my time on contestant number one 😁 thank you so much for stopping by.
Very well thought out, it's difficult to gauge whether someone is being honest with you or not, but you seem to want to give the benefit of the doubt if warranted, which is a good thing @princessj190.
👋 @jamerussell just wanted to give room for a situation that my partner cheated but not consciously which was why I presented both case scenario 😊 thanks for stopping by 🤗 appreciate it
Good question. But, history repeats for weaker souls and minds. So, I would not.
Great! Music is a part of my Toolkit for dealing with stress and depression. I love dramatic symphony music in particular, but when I get into Death Metal...watch out, could mean that I am upset
And, yes I would certainly agree with your rationale taking into account the context of the situation.
Thanks for sharing @princessj190 🤗