Too fragile to settle fight, but I did.

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Liza Summer


Fights, misunderstandings, and arguments tend to take over the day and you'd wonder if people want peace in the end. Fight occurs everywhere even in families and the best is never to let it go without having someone to be a mediator or middleman who would settle the score and allow everyone to become happy again.

In another way, some people are fond of fighting every single day of their lives and you start imagining if they are normal at all. Like, how do you find or derive pleasure in wanting to put up a fight or trying to make trouble so that the other person would retaliate?

There are people known for that and I have experienced this because I live with a particular lady.

I am too fragile when it comes to settling fights and for this reason, you cannot see me in the midst of those fighting or quarrelling. I don't have such strength but I have been a middleman that settles fights among people I am close to, even my family.

There was a time I had to raise my voice at my Dad because I was just so frustrated seeing how he kept shouting at his mom calling her names including a witch. What? My dad said that to the old woman's face.

Thank God I said every bit of words to him and he kept quiet immediately. I felt for my grandma that day but I don't want to dwell much on that.

This lady I was talking about, is my friend but not a close one even though she was once my roommate in my first year at the University.

Her lifestyle isn't something I never wanted to associate with and because of that, I disassociate myself from her, as being friends with her is toxic for me. Still, I didn't stop relating to and greeting her when the need arises.

You see this lady, she is something else to everyone in the compound. She is always temperamental and would always find one excuse to put up a fight every day. She is always restless and she won't stop until she fights or insult someone—that kind of life is a crazy one to me.

There is another lady very young to me. She is so nice and she gives me that respect. She and others know that I try to make peace with everyone and you can never see me fighting or quarrelling with another.

Something happened between them and I heard and saw what transpired. That night, my temperamental friend found a way to put up a fight and because I was inside listening to everything, my other good friend started shouting at her, telling her what she did was wrong.

The issue got heated up and I heard my name. This temperamental friend didn't want to accept the fact that she was at fault.

I quickly went out, trying to separate her from my temperamental friend. Of course, I know her and she is never someone who listens to people's advice, I had to lead the other lady to her room. Others came around and she was standing on her point to let her know what she deserved.

I begged her not to go to her since she knows the kind of person she is. She is always finding every means to fight everyone and once you have known someone's behaviour, there is no need to behave stupidly like her.

When one is acting like a goat, the other person should act like a sheep. If two stubborn people aren't inseparable, things would escalate to where you do not expect them to get to. One would know when there is a fight but you can never tell where it will lead to.

I had to speak my mind and calmed her down. Thank God she accepted and the next day, she went to report my temperamental friend to her school father and that ends it.

There is a way I make them know that when you know someone for trouble, you can as well avoid it and that is what I call maturity. You shouldn't always take everything seriously and want to cause trouble everywhere.

There are people like my temperamental friend but we can try to make peace by not acting the way she or others act.

Thanks for your time.

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It's always good to make peace inorder to avoid issues. Though thanks for sharing.

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You have really done wel to stand for your grand ma that very day. Thank God you were there.. but as for your friends, things happen that way, one must surely submit for one, not that the person is stupid or weak but to let peace reign

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You are right. Peace should reign and that makes it more mature for such a person who has decided to let go.

Seriously, I felt for mama but thank God I was there. Thank you for showing up.

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Yeah, peace is just the best... You are welcome and always make peace reign everywhere you are

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You've really done well to stand up for what's right and solve problems. thanks for the information mate

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People who are hot tempered are usually quick to escalate things, they require calm friends around them to make them see reason when things seem to be getting out of hand.

You did a great job.

Thank you for sharing this with us.

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You really tried in solving that issue o, if it's me I will just stay in my room. These days I hardly meddle in anybody's issue for safety reasons, I will just stay far and be watching the whole thing and pray someone will go and resolve it, but it won't be me 😆

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😅😅😅😅😅😅 I don't like it too because i no get strength but that day, I couldn't see my other nice friend in such a situation.

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Talking about your dad reminded me of one experience I had with my dad years ago when he was fighting my step mom, I had to raise my voice on him and pointed a finger at him for that. hmmm! I know I settled the dispute but till date I can't forgive myself for raising a finger at my own father. I should have look for other ways to speak to him. There is always a way to avoid troublesome people but they thing is that some people will never let you be until you show them small of the other side 🤣. Meanwhile prevention is better than cure

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Though you will be hurt but at that moment, there was nothing to do than how you settled it. He will understand that what you did then was to solve the matter.
Troublesome people? Abeg make person dey avoid them oo 😅

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Troublesome people? Abeg make person dey avoid them oo 😅.

Na the only option be that o🤣

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This part got me giggling.

some people are fond of fighting every single day of their lives and you start imagining if they are normal at all.
Fighting doesn't sort out anything, it just had more to the burning fire. It is a good thing the other listened to you and got calm afterward.

Waltzed in through dreemport.

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Don't mind them. I don't know what they gain through fighting instead of making peace.

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As soon as I began noticing individuals with temperaments similar to that of your acquaintance, I began to be cautious in how I interacted with them in order to avoid any potential conflicts. I abhor arguments.

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This is when you want to bang their heads together to know some sense into them!
Popped in from dreemport tonight Princess, have a great week!

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