Do not allow greed make you lose your self worth.


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Three years ago, myself and a friend (let's call her Joy) were admitted into the University. In the course of finding a house, fortunately, we found one so close to the school and it wasn't a problem getting transport fare. We both decided to live together. Just a few days of living together, Joy met a guy who was also a colleague and living in the same compound with us. Seeing how this guy was living a flamboyant (fake life), she got so close to him and his friend immediately and that shocked me because we are just knowing this guy.

Why would Joy stoop so low to start cooking and sleeping in this guy's room all of a sudden? I asked myself this question. Ever since she decided to be cooking for this guy and his friend, wash their clothes, sleeping together all because of the little change she was collecting, she lost her self-worth.
To make it worse, she is two years older than him but her greediness blinded her to start using “Sir” for him.

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Why this story and the topic?

Some weeks ago, this guy was trying to ask a friend out and while she was asking him about Joy because she thought something was going on between them. He said something shockingly that I never believed he could utter from his mouth and that was when I knew that she is in trouble already but she hasn't realized it. He said she is already useless and he will continue to make her a slave since she isn't complaining. He said she is not wise at all.

I felt so bad for her because only if she heard what this guy has said about her. Around the area, no one respected her again and she couldn't think about this. I felt so bad because she has allowed this to happen right from the onset, that she has become thrash in the presence of a guy who should be her younger brother.

Till today, when this guy sees me, he knows his boundary and because of this, he respects me for that. Joy has useless herself to the extent that she doesn't rest during the day and night just to satisfy this guy and his friends including the side chicks this guy brings home. I wonder what she came to school to do. This guy is using her but she doesn't know because of the little money she gets from him. Because of this, I had to stop my friendship with her since I already spoke to her about it but wasn't willing to change. Thank God she left my room and took a room opposite the guy's own.

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When I saw the weekly second edition, I was excited because this topic is something I want to share with everyone, especially my gender — Female.

A lot is going on around us that we need to learn from them. Thank God for the real experiences I have seen for myself, especially this one. Some girls have lost their self-worth all because of material things from guys and they are not ready to deviate and know their values. They have been made useless because they are lured and deceived.

There was a lady who was used recently by a Yahoo guy and every month when she is doing her monthly period, she sees maggot from her private part. I hope she gets a miracle.

Girls should know what they carry in them and they shouldn't allow greed to destroy that. Joy does not have time to focus on her life and career anymore because each day, she jumps from one task to another till the day ends and it continues the next day. She is a graduate and I do not see it in her.

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One thing about greediness is that it doesn't start in a day. This has always happened right from childhood and if it's not cautioned in a child, he or she grows up to become one. This was what happened to Joy, and her parents weren't observant to take it away from her. I hope parents would always monitor their children and stop any bad habits before it's too late. Joy is already thirty years old and I don't think she would change unless she sees her mistake as she is not ready to listen to anyone again.

There are things we should tolerate and not tolerate in our lives because the way we see or carry ourselves, others will see us that way. If you respect yourself, people will respect you.

When they see your greediness and to what extent you can take to get something, they are ready to take your value away from you and make you useless and before you know what is happening, it's already too late.

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Ladies, let's try to protect our self-image. Get something meaningful to do with your life and never allow someone to treat you like a thrash. It is a shame when people are treating you like trash when you could have seen yourself as someone worth it. If you are making your own money and living a life of contentment, no one, I mean no guy will take you for granted. It's something you have to earn. I thank God for my life in this aspect.

I hope this story will change our minds today and realize that we are valuable and no one should take us as something else. Also, learn to be content with what you have. Had it been my friend had been contented just like myself, she would get the respect she deserves from the guy and other people.

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Thanks for your time on my blog.

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Many ladies lost their self worth the same way, on campus you see them flocking around the big boys all because of what they can get from them.

I know a girl like that in my apartment, the guy beats her up but she's still has no plans of leaving.

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They are everywhere and it makes me sad that they do not yet know their values. Instead they allow someone take advantage of them and start maltreating them anyhow. They allowed it right from the beginning. I hope their eyes are opened.

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The truth is alot of persons not just ladies has lost there self worth and are willing too bend the knees too who every can give them their daily bread, most don't even know what they want too so with their life's they dépend on others for instructions on how too manage their everyday affairs, we just have to pray for our childrens generation so they don't loose it also like this millianials

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Yes oo. Our children should be guided carefully not to join these set of people. It's so sad though.

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Wow, well. We live in a generation where people worship Money, I'm not really surprised about your friend, probably she felt her future is secured with all the money she gets from the guy. Another thing is, some guys can be animal too, even if she's doing that way, why not envalue her? This thing is mostly acclimatized to Yahoo boys though. We live in a crazy world.

@tipu curate.

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Many people now worship money like gods now and they don't mind doing the worst thing to get it. This is rampant in the society today.

Even if her future is secured from what she gets, such statement from the guy already makes it obvious that he has nothing to do with her and once we are posted for service, everyone will go their separate ways. Perhaps her eyes would be opened then.

We definitely live in a crazy world.

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Well maybe God..... Life might offer her a second chance.

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At least that makes life interesting. There is always second chance for people who are willing to change. Thank you 😊

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You are voicing out the truth, our self-worth should indeed be protected and the female gender, shouldn't take it lightly.

I have seen cases like this as well and I feel for ladies who enslave themselves for guys just because of money and other material things. It shouldn't be that way, everyone has value that must be protected.

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We all have values to protect and shouldn't allow any one enslave us because of what we want to get from them. Thank you, George.

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I'm not surprised that the guy said that about “joy”. I mean, I was actually expecting him to say worse. Not only girls, but people should know their worth and only let greed get the better side of them.

Thanks for sharing.

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Greed already had Joy been enslaved and she is not realizing it yet.

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This kind of message is really needed in time like this. Lots of people had lost their integrity because of money most especially ladies. Most ladies nowadays want to live in luxuries and they can do anything to have the life they desire. We all need to protect our self worth. Thanks for the lovely write up!

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Omo to cook my own food and wash my own clothes sometimes I do it because it’s a must😂. Joy is trying ooo and if care is not taken that very guy will definitely dupe her one day when he doesn’t need all the things like washing and cooking she is doing .

I will never do all this house chores to a guy because of money except love is involve and that doesn’t mean I will have to be doing it every time.

If you don’t know your worth people will treat you like a trash.

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You are very right my dear. Except there is love involved will I do those things and it wouldn't be everytime since I know what I will be doing to get better in my life too. Someone should not come and tie me down and not focus on my own life.

If you don’t know your worth people will treat you like a trash.

You have said nothing but the truth. We need to see the worth in us. Thanks so much for reading.

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💯% even when we do chores like this out of love, balance is still required and we should not be expected to do it simply because we are women. When we enter relationships, they should be partnerships - there should be balance! Good comment. !PIZZA

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Yes we are partners and not slaves.

Thanks so much.

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That’s a sad story Princess, but you did what you could to help her. I’m not sure if it is greediness or rather desperation. Like you said she hasn’t got any self worth. Without it, she desperately jumps on any opportunity, even if it ruins her in the long run. Sad 😔

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I think you are right there. Being desperate could make one lose his or her self worth and that is so sad. Greediness and desperation.... Both can hamper one's life.

I did my best though but she isn't someone willing to listen or adhere to advice.
Thanks so much ma.

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My bestie’s favourite saying is ‘You can lead a horse to the water, but you can’t make him drink it’. I think it’s very true in the case of this girl 💙

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That is it. We all have got a choice. No one can actually force us.

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what is a "Yahoo guy"?
and a maggot coming from her private part, I think she really should see a doctor to consult her condition.
I feel sorry for her even though that comes from her own greed.

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So many people have lost themselves to greed, to some, it may be the materialistic aspect, another the lifestyle, or even maybe for the attention that comes with it. The love for money has damaged so many people. Just as you said, if parents don't curb those habits of their children at a very young age, then it not going to be easy when they come of age. It's a pity that Joy has gone too far to go back or open her eyes.

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Anyone who exhibits greed must make the required changes to stop it because it is a disease.
Because they frequently fall prey to ritualists, toxic individuals, and human traffickers, wealthy people terminate their lives prematurely. They always inflate an offer if they believe it to be too good to be true since they are greedy.

Thank you for this lovely content, you are amazing!!

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Self worth, many have lost its definition, this is a lovely piece Princess and I do agree with you. Thanks for sharing.

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Some people just won't listen Princess and there is nothing that we can do.

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This only happens when you choose to allow materialistic possession control you! Well am not surprised that he said that about her though! But he was really mean phew!! I meant how would she know that when she was blinded by promise the guy gave her as an assurance for marriage lmao.

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