Tú puedes ser la mejor medicina // You can be the best medicine // LoH Contest #100

Hola, querido hiver.
Este post es mi participación para el concurso semanal de la comunidad Ladies of Hive. Por diversas circunstancias solo he publicado una vez en ella y no quería faltar en su edición número 100. ¡Felicidades a todas las damas de Hive!

Si tú también quieres participar, aquí te dejo el enlace de la convocatoria. Aprovecho para invitar a @lormez16 a que se una a nosotras.

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Pregunta a responder

He elegido el primero de los interrogantes propuestos, que dice así:
1️⃣ ¿Sabes cómo ser un defensor eficaz de tu ser querido o amigo cuando se enfrenta a un problema de salud mental? ¿Sabes cómo responder, a quién dirigirte para pedir ayuda? ¿Te has enfrentado alguna vez a un reto de este tipo?

En lugar de contestar directamente cada pregunta, he hecho memoria y voy a contarte una experiencia que me marcó, tanto por estar involucrada emocionalmente como por mi juventud en esos momentos. Existen sucesos en nuestras vidas que se nos quedan grabados, este es uno de esos.


María hace cosas raras

La historia se remonta a mis años de universitaria. La protagonista es la que entonces consideraba una de mis mejores amigas. La llamaremos María, aunque su nombre real es otro. Una chica dulce, amable y alegre, con una profunda empatía y voluntad de servicio a los demás. Inteligente y abierta, era la líder de nuestro grupito.

En el último curso de la carrera María comenzó a tener conductas extrañas. El que entonces era su novio terminó la relación y ella no lo asimiló bien. Estuvo durante semanas muy depresiva, su conducta no era proporcional al par de meses que habían sido novios. Temíamos que se quedase enganchada a su despecho.

Pasados unos de meses, sin que ocurriese nada reseñable, su actitud pasó al extremo contrario. Empezó a despreciarnos a su grupo de amigas. Cualquier cosa que hiciéramos nos criticaba de forma cruel, directa y en público, pavoneándose y diciendo que ella era la mejor en todo: la más lista, la más maja, la más guapa. Era extraño, ella no era así.


La situación iba de mal en peor

Con el paso de los días, se mostraba cada vez más agitada. Estaba como nerviosa de forma permanente, no podía parar quieta. Manifestaba una verborrea que no había forma de parar, todas las ideas que le pasaban por la cabeza las expresaba en voz alta, sin filtro de ningún tipo. Esto trajo consigo problemas, pues ya no era algo que hiciera solo con nosotras, su grupo de confianza. Lo hacía con todos los compañeros de clase, fueran quienes fueran.

Algunos compañeros comenzaron a reírse de ella. Esto es algo que hoy sigo sin comprender. Estudiábamos para ser terapeutas, para tratar a personas con enfermedad o discapacidad, incluidas las mentales. Era claro que a María le pasaba algo y que empezaba a necesitar ayuda. Sus amigas la defendimos cuanto pudimos.

Llegó el momento de hacer las prácticas externas. Siempre me tocaba con María, gracias a que nuestros apellidos eran correlativos en la lista de alumnos. Era un turno de mes y medio de estancia en una asociación de familiares y afectados por la enfermedad de Alzheimer. Se trataba de un centro de día pequeñito, en el que los pacientes acudían desde sus casas y pasaban allí la mañana realizando actividades de estimulación cognitiva.

Los primeros días María continuaba con su nerviosismo, pero supongo que la novedad del lugar la descolocó un poco y parecía que se tranquilizaba. Pero a la semana o diez días, su agitación aumentó con mayor grado que antes. No dejaba de hablar y desconcentraba a los abuelitos, pero lo peor fue un día en que cogió un libro, vio en él algo que le pareció interesante, y sin pensarlo arrancó las hojas y se las metió en el bolsillo.

En ese momento me di cuenta de que mi amiga estaba mucho peor de lo que pensaba. Aquello era grave. María jamás habría tenido una conducta como aquella. Hablé con ella. Era consciente de que no había hecho bien pero dijo que no podía evitarlo, que su cabeza pensaba y ella ejecutaba, que no sabía lo que le dominaba. Hablé también con nuestra tutora, expresándole cómo era ella en realidad y transmitiéndole mi preocupación por lo que le estaba pasando.


La respuesta a nuestras preguntas

La tutora se puso en contacto con su familia y María fue retirada de las prácticas. Sus padres la llevaron al médico y cuando fue derivada al psiquiatra, en unos meses, supimos que sufría de un trastorno bipolar.

No pudo terminar el curso a la vez que el resto de la clase. En las enfermedades mentales cuesta dar con la medicación adecuada a cada persona. Por suerte, su tratamiento empezó a dar efectos positivos en un plazo razonable y en el siguiente año María obtuvo su título. No ha trabajado nunca de lo que estudiamos, pero después estudió para ser auxiliar de enfermería y lleva años trabajando como tal.

En los siguientes años conservamos la amistad, aunque como es habitual, nuestros caminos fueron separándose sin apenas darnos cuenta hasta que pasaron años sin saber una de la otra. Gracias a Facebook conectamos de nuevo y sé que está bien, estable a pesar de haber perdido a su madre, lo que prueba que está fuerte. Disfruta de su novio, su trabajo y su casa. Se siente feliz.


Para concluir

Ahora ya sabes que mi respuesta a las preguntas de la iniciativa. Te las recuerdo:
1️⃣ ¿Sabes cómo ser un defensor eficaz de tu ser querido o amigo cuando se enfrenta a un problema de salud mental? ¿Sabe cómo responder, a quién dirigirse para pedir ayuda? ¿Te has enfrentado alguna vez a un reto de este tipo?
En mi caso es un triple sí.

Si en algún momento detectas que una persona cercana a ti empieza a tener una conducta que no es habitual en ella, no dudes en poner en aviso a sus familiares o contactos más cercanos. Si es un caso como el de mi amiga y yo, acude al responsable del lugar en el que estéis. Estarás adelantando un tiempo precioso, sobre todo para algunos diagnósticos.

En cuanto a tu actitud con la persona afectada, sé paciente, comprensivo y por encima de todo, escúchale. Trátale con cariño, es una de las mejores medicinas.


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ENGLISH VERSION

Hello, dear hiver.
This post is my entry for the weekly Ladies of Hive community contest. Due to various circumstances I've only posted once and I didn't want to miss out on the 100th edition. Congratulations to all the ladies of Hive!

If you also want to participate, here's the link to the call for entries. I'd like to take this opportunity to invite @lormez16 to join us.


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Question to answer

I have chosen the first of the proposed questions, which goes like this:
1️⃣ Do you know how to be an effective advocate for your beloved one or friend when they’re dealing with a mental health issue? Do you know how to respond, whom to contact for help? Have you ever been faced such a challenge?

Instead of answering each question directly, I'm going to look back and tell you about an experience that marked me, both because I was emotionally involved and because of my youth at the time. There are events in our lives that stick with us, and this is one of them.


Maria does strange things

The story goes back to my college years. The protagonist is what I then considered one of my best friends. We'll call her Maria, although her real name is different. A sweet, kind and cheerful girl, with a deep empathy and willingness to serve others. Intelligent and open-minded, she was the leader of our little group.

In the last year of her studies Maria started to behave strangely. Her then boyfriend broke up with her and she did not take it well. She was very depressed for weeks, her behaviour was not commensurate with the couple of months they had been dating. We feared that she would get hooked on her spite.

After a few months, without anything remarkable happening, her attitude went to the opposite extreme. She began to despise us, her group of friends. Whatever we did, she criticised us cruelly, directly and in public, strutting around and saying that she was the best at everything: the smartest, the nicest, the prettiest. It was strange, she wasn't like that.


The situation was going from bad to worse

As the days went by, she became more and more agitated. She was constantly on edge, she couldn't stand still. There was no way to stop her from being verbose, all the ideas that came into her head were expressed out loud, without any kind of filter whatsoever. This brought with it problems, as it was no longer something she did only with us, her trusted group. She did it with all her classmates, whoever they were.

Some classmates started to laugh at her. This is something I still don't understand today. We were studying to be therapists, to treat people with illnesses or disabilities, including mental illnesses. It was clear that there was something wrong with Maria and that she was starting to need help. Her friends defended her as much as we could.

The time came for me to do my externship. It was always my turn with María, thanks to the fact that our surnames were correlative on the list of students. It was a one-and-a-half month placement in an association for relatives and those affected by Alzheimer's disease. It was a small day centre, where patients came from home and spent the mornings doing cognitive stimulation activities.

For the first few days Maria continued to be nervous, but I guess the novelty of the place threw her off a bit and she seemed to calm down. But after a week or ten days, her agitation increased to a greater degree than before. She wouldn't stop talking and kept the grandparents off balance, but the worst was one day when she picked up a book, saw something in it that she thought was interesting, and without thinking she tore out the pages and put them in her pocket.

At that moment I realised that my friend was much worse off than I thought. It was serious. Maria would never have behaved like that. I talked to her. She was aware that she had done wrong but she said that she couldn't help it, that her head was thinking and she was doing, that she didn't know what was controlling her. I also spoke to our tutor, telling her what she was really like and conveying my concern about what was happening to her.


The answer to our questions

The tutor contacted her family and Maria was withdrawn from the internship. Her parents took her to the doctor and when she was referred to a psychiatrist, within a few months, we known that she was suffering from bipolar disorder.

She was unable to finish the course at the same time as the rest of the class. With mental illness, it is difficult to find the right medication for each person. Fortunately, her treatment started to show positive effects within a reasonable period of time and in the following year Maria got her degree. She has never worked in the field we studied, but later studied to become a nurse's aide and has been working as such for years.

Over the next few years we maintained our friendship, although as usual, our paths diverged without us realising it, until years went by without us hearing from each other. Thanks to Facebook we reconnected and I know that she is well, stable despite having lost her mother, which proves that she is strong. She enjoys her boyfriend, her job and her home. She feels happy.


To conclude

Now you know my answer to the initiative questions. I remind you of them:
1️⃣ Do you know how to be an effective advocate for your loved one or friend when faced with a mental health problem? Do you know how to respond, who to turn to for help? Have you ever faced such a challenge?
In my case it is a triple yes.

If at any point you detect that someone close to you starts to engage in behaviour that is unusual for them, don't hesitate to alert their family members or closest contacts. If it is a case like my friend and me, go to the person in charge of the place where you are. You will be gaining precious time, especially for some diagnoses.

As for your attitude towards the person concerned, be patient, understanding and above all, listen to them. Treat them with affection, it is one of the best medicines.


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Wao, nunca he pasado por algo así, es tremenda la experiencia que nos cuentas. Sin embargo tuviste la valentía, empatía para hacer lo correcto y no abandonarla pues quizás pudo haber sido peor. Gracias por compartir tu historia.

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Por fortuna mi amiga consiguió llevar una vida totalmente normal.

Las enfermedades mentales han estado presentes toda mi vida. Mi padre y sus hermanas han trabajado en un hospital psiquiátrico, por lo que he tenido contacto con ese mundo desde niña. Supongo que de ahí vino mi vocación para ser terapeuta. ☺️

Gracias por tu tiempo leyendo, comentando y apoyando. Un abrazote. 🤗

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Hermosísimo post! Lo he leído con mucho placer. Gracias por compartir esa historia!

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Muchas gracias, es todo un honor recibir esos elogios de alguien que escribe tan bonito. 🤗

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Gracias a usted! Ha sido todo un placer leer su post!

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My heart! Maria is lucky to have had you and your other friends hold out a torch for her, they say we need the most love when we are being the most unlovable and you have shown great kindness.

The old classmates laughing at her is a classic, it is what people do - laugh, mock and ridicule people when it is obvious they aren't in their right minds. Kindness is basic yet often far fetched in situations that demand it without question.
Thank you for this beautiful and touching entry. Cheers to Maria for winning.

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It could have happened to any of us. No one chooses to have a mental illness.

Being kind is easy for me, treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.

Thank you for reading and commenting. I appreciate your kind words. A big hug. 🤗

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¡Hola Paloma! Que tremenda historia has compartido el día de hoy. Y que tema más relevante. ¡Muchas gracias!

Estoy convencido de que debemo hacer algo juntos. ¡Ánimate! Hagamos una Charla de Vida semana. Solo tienes que perderle "temor" a la cámara y listo. ¡Un abrazo!

!PAL
!POB
!CCC

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Menuda experiencia Paloma, y tal como dices de las que te marcan y hacen que veas la vida de otra manera. Tu amiga tuvo suerte de tenerte a su lado en ese momento. Gracias por compartirla y por la invitación al concurso.
Un abrazo.

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Así es, te marcan y te cambian la perspectiva.

Gracias a ti por tu leer y comentar. 🤗

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If at any point you detect that someone close to you starts to engage in behaviour that is unusual for them, don't hesitate to alert their family members or closest contacts.
Great advice, @palomap3 !
!LADY 😍🌺🤙

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Woah... I'm sure she's okay now... heartbreak can cause a lot of things to folks. People should be careful how to hurt someone

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Yes, she is fine now. I admire her strong.
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This was a beautiful read. If it is other mean friends, they may ignore Maria for what she was doing, not knowing she needed help and at that point, she might decide to take her life.

It's good you all stood by her and observed her changed behavior and she got the right treatment. Now, she is doing great with her boyfriend.

This was an interesting story of yours and this shows how important we need to observe people's behavior especially those around or close to us.

I came through Dreemport 🤗

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Oh, yes, we only need to observe and listen to detect when someone needs help, and then we should do what we can to get them to see a professional.

As you say, there are very serious cases that can be a matter of life or death.

Thanks for your visit and wise comment. 🤗

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Always great to advocate for our loved ones, especially incase of mental illness, thanks for sharing with us how you helped your friend at such a tender age, greatful she's better now.

I came through dreemport

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We can help those we love more than we realise. Sometimes just giving notice saves lives.

Thanks for your visit, dreemer! 🤗

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oh wow. Bipolar is one subtle guy. I am glad that it was discovered before it could go from worse to horrible. This is also informative too. Thank you for sharing! Came in through Dreemport

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Yes, bipolar disorder is little known, and best kept away from you and those you love.

Thanks for your time reading and commenting, dear @deraaa. 🤗

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Excellent storyline @palomap3, what a rough thing to go through; I actually have been through months with someone on Hive that was in that condition, but after coaching and working with this person they are slowly returning to a normal life. I hope it's not much longer now.
This post was obtained through Dreemport.
!LADY

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Ohhh, I'm so sorry you have someone in that state close to you, and at the same time I'm glad because I know you will do everything you can to help. He/she will have to work hard, I send you my best wishes and strength to make it better sooner rather than later.

Thank you so much for your visit and for your comment. 🤗
!LUV

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Thanks for your great article and great advice. Maria is so lucky to have the care and empathy of friends like you. I hope she always have a good life and health.

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Oh, thanks to you, for your time reading and comenting. I appreciate it so much. 🤗

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Wonderful write up @palomap3! We expect mental illness to show up in tears, or a straightforward breakdown of some sort... but sometimes it is our friend, ripping pages from a book that lets us know they need help! Agitation can be one of the leading signs of someone losing a battle against depression or anxiety, or in the case of your friend, something trickier like bi-polar! It is important that we help the ones we love utilize their support systems when they don't realize they need to- I am glad that her family was able to help her!

Thank you for sharing, and side note- how perfect is this line up of your photo on Dreemport!? I laughed so hard at this coincidence 🤣

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That's right, we have the power to help. Just by raising the alarm, we could be saving a person. I'd rather look like an exaggerator than that someone is in danger and not give it any importance.

As for the photo, LOL 😂 what a coincidence! Now you don't need to imagine I have a body under my head, hahaha. Hilarious!

Thanks for your visit and for your time reading and commenting, dreemer. 🤗

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Hi my sweet friend paloma!!!!!! hehehehe

it's been too long since I've interacted with you - my mind has taken a sabattical hehehehe

It's so sad to think that the future therapists of the world - were sitting there, watching someone in need - and mocking her.

I'm so glad that you were there and watching her, helping her. She needed that from you! And I'm sure that you are now a really intuitive therapist for people!!! :)

People like you - that are compassionate and caring - we need more of them in the world!!!

sending love! :)

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Hello, my dear Dreemie! You deserved that break after a few months of so much hustle and bustle, hehe. I too have slowed down a bit so I don't get burnt out and enjoy every moment. 😌

You read well in hearts. Yes, I am sensitive and have enormous compassion for those who suffer. Sometimes I can have a hard time, but it's my nature and I think that instead of fighting against it, the smart thing to do is to enhance it and take advantage of it. I try to do that as much as I can. 😅

Thank you very much for your visit. A giant hug. 🤗

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Es difícil reconocer a veces conductas erráticas en familiares o amigos, por lo cercano de ellos. Maravilloso ejemplo como un aporte para estar atentos a las señales. Muchísimo éxito, que bueno que pudiste participar. @palomap3

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Sí, nos cuesta ver, sobre todo condiciones duras que nos negamos a reconocer. A veces sin ser consciente de que lo negamos.
A ver si consigo más constancia en LOH, es una comunidad que me encanta y no participo tanto como me gustaría. 🤗

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Una gran experiencia de vida la que tuviste al ver los cambios de tu compañera de clases, que bueno que su familia la llevo a tener la ayuda y respuestas de su cambio de comportamiento. Muchas bendiciones

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Gracias por tu generosidad leyendo y comentando, @yole. Un abrazo. 🤗

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Hola @palomap3, qué interesante lo que nos cuentas sobre tu amiga.
Se me ocurre la posibilidad de que ella haya estado tomando algo que le produjera ese cambio. Algunos medicamentos hacen que las personas se sientan deshinibidas y hagan y digan cosas que normalmente no. Gracias por tan buena publicacion.

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¡Hola! Nunca llegué a saber si hubo alguna causa concreta, ni siquiera si mi amiga lo llegó a averiguar. Me quedo con su recuperación y que la última vez que he sabido de ella, estaba bien. 🥰

Gracias por tu tiempo leyendo y comentando, lo aprecio mucho. 🤗

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