Body Shaming

Hello ladies of hive! Here is another exciting topic for me to explore and I hope that you slide in the comment session of this post and air your view!

Let me begin by asking...Have you ever been body shamed before? Which body part of yours was mocked? And how did you feel or handle it generally?

Mine was my nose. My highschool mates would say my nostrils were flying. They would always tease me about how wide it was in a casual way. Of cause I wasn't bullied, non of them were bullies. As a matter of fact, they were my friends and whenever they mention it, they don't feel like they were offending me. They just said it for fun and we all laugh over it and 'move on'. Did I take it as a joke and move on wholely? No. Deep within me was a dislike for my nose forming gradually till it became something I was conscious of. For the longest part of my teenage or even youthful years I hated my nose shape. It just wasn't my selling point or so I thought.
IMG_20200428_113053_7.jpg

There was this one guy I had a crush on back then. I think he knew i liked him but remembering him now made me think he was trying to be a young Casanova then. Lol. There was this day he just stood and stared at me for an uncomfortable period of time only to tell me that I can be pretty at times. 'At times' being the operative word. The first meaning I read to that was...' You are pretty but for your nose!'

I carried this feeling of 'my nose is ugly' with me for a very long time. To be sincerely its only just about 4years back I became confident of my looks and particularly my nose. Thanks to this other guy in my department that loves to pick on me. And instead of being meek and at the receiving end, this time I unleashed the sharpness of my tongue. I would attack him before he did because I knew he was going to say one negative thing about my look that day. He started to avoid me over time when he knew I'd give him even bigger embarrassment if he crossed my path.

IMG_20200712_174919_0.jpg

Though this method worked but I couldn't use it always because it was going to turn me into someone with bad sense of humour or someone who has no joy. Of cause no one will was there in time to know why I picked up such defence mechanism. I would only be condemned for having no chill and with a shitty attitude.

The nose is meant for breathing, not facial decoration. As long as am still able to breath with it, I've got all I need. People will always talk. Is it your butt that is said to be too flat or your bust is not so large? They would say your legs are too fat or too tinny. They even go as far as body shaming a young mother's fallen bust! The woman's breast is primarily to feed her young baby. Whether peanut or watermelon size, she's able to breast feed and that's all that matters. No baby has been recorded in history to reject breast size.

Personally I don't like having big tommy but I've got one from child birth. As much as I want to be rid of it, I'm wearing it proudly while it last. Some people have stories behind their 'unusual' physical attributes. I used to have a close friend who was also my boss. She limps sort of, and a younger coworker of mine would always use it to insult her in her absence. It was until she shared her near death experience with us one day at work that I fully understood the reason for her scars. The surprising thing was how recent her accident happened. It meant that if I had met her earlier than when I did, I would have known her with straight legs and unscarred skin.

Truth is that we project what is inside of us. When we think someone one is ugly, maybe we need to look within and uproot the ugliness that is within our very own self. People face different challenges daily and instead of being the reason they feel unmotivated, we should be the reason they smile, the reason they feel they can do it. Be kind.

    Thanks for reading!

As always,

Reach me: https://linktr.ee/FaithOnDemand

Your comments and tap on the heart icon make my day! Would be anticipating to see you in the comment session. So...

         See you there!


0
0
0.000
13 comments
avatar

The people doing V2K with remote neural monitoring want me to believe this lady @battleaxe is an operator. She is involved deeply with her group and @fyrstikken . Her discord is Battleaxe#1003. I cant prove she is the one directly doing the V2K and RNM. Doing it requires more than one person at the least. It cant be done alone. She cant prove she is not one of the ones doing it. I was drugged in my home covertly, it ended badly. They have tried to kill me and are still trying to kill me. I bet nobody does anything at all. Ask @battleaxe to prove it. I bet she wont. They want me to believe the V2K and RNM in me is being broadcast from her location. And what the fuck is "HOMELAND SECURITY" doing about this shit? I think stumbling over their own dicks maybe? Just like they did and are doing with the Havana Syndrome.

They are reckless and should have shown the proper media what they had before taking me hostage for 5 years.

What would you say while having a gun pointed at your head from an undisclosed location? Have people find it? My hands are tied while they play like children with a gun to my head. Its a terrorist act on American soil while some yawn and say its not real or Im a mental case. Many know its real. This is an ignored detrimental to humanity domestic threat. Ask informed soldiers in the American military what their oath is and tell them about the day you asked me why. Nobody has I guess. Maybe someone told ill informed soldiers they cant protect America from military leaders in control with ill intent. How do we protect locked up soldiers from telling the truth? https://ecency.com/fyrstikken/@fairandbalanced/i-am-the-only-motherfucker-on-the-internet-pointing-to-a-direct-source-for-voice-to-skull-electronic-terrorism

0
0
0.000
avatar

Congratulations @ozohu! You have completed the following achievement on the Hive blockchain and have been rewarded with new badge(s):

You distributed more than 1250 upvotes.
Your next target is to reach 1500 upvotes.

You can view your badges on your board and compare yourself to others in the Ranking
If you no longer want to receive notifications, reply to this comment with the word STOP

To support your work, I also upvoted your post!

0
0
0.000
avatar

I’m sorry you went through all. No one deserves to feel bad especially about things they have no control over. And you’re absolutely right, people project their negative body images on others. I’m happy you’ve accepted your nose and have let go off the trolls.
Fuck that your crush, you’re beautiful every time.

0
0
0.000
avatar

Thank you. Oh yes, I'm beautiful all round the clock everyday and so is everyone else.

Thanks for reading ad engaging.

0
0
0.000
avatar

People will make shitty comments about us just to feel better about themselves, we should learn how to not let them get to us and as well letting them know how we feel about such remarks.

0
0
0.000
avatar

True.

However, not all of them are sensible enough to make adjustments after you let them know, like in my old school mate case. So the best thing then is to stand for yourself. This always works.

Hey, I appreciate your input. Thank you!

0
0
0.000
avatar

It is true that we project what is inside of us!
That right, wear what you are given proudly.
And sometimes it takes a strong personality to do that.
But remember that not everyone is like you classmates when you were young.
Very few are like your coworker who makes fun of the boss ...
Not all are driven by how the person looks.
Every single one of us in not perfect physically.
Thanks for sharing, @ozohu.
Take care.

0
0
0.000
avatar

Thank you for this. It is so easy to feel like the next person will mock us again or is even probably mocking us in their minds once you go through constant mockery. Like in my former crush case. He might be sincere with his statement but I'll never know because I was scared and I easily judged him based on what others normally say to me.

So really, not everyone out there is senseless. Not everyone thought I was ugly. But did I agree with this back then? No.

Thank you, ma'am, for always reading and commenting on my post. Much love!

0
0
0.000
avatar

You received 1 LADY(LOH) token for posting in Ladies of Hive!

We believe that you should be rewarded for the time and effort spent in creating articles. The goal is to encourage token holders to accumulate and hold LOH tokens over a long period of time.

0
0
0.000
avatar

I sometimes ask some persons who body shame others "how many persons have you been able to create and how many have you given life to leave???
It's so annoying when some one constantly talk down on how some part of your body make you look when obviously someone is admiring it.
My friends usually tease me with how small my eyes are,I feel bad sometime but hellno they wouldn't make me feel bad about my God given gift.
I have the cutest eyes anyone of them can imagine and that's part of what attract my hubby too😘

0
0
0.000