Things I wish I'd known Earlier In Life
Here’s a summary of things I wish I knew way before now. Do not get me wrong, I’m not in any way implying that I regret all of the decisions I have made…well, maybe only a handful of them.
I just wish I knew better, just maybe I would have done better. It is my hope that at the end of this article, you can also share your thoughts with me.
First on the list is, I wish I knew to be more patient. To understand that my time and season will come. I wish I had patiently waited for results rather than jumped on the next available option. This is mostly in regards to my career choice.
Not that I regret where I am, it’s just I still dwell on the fantasy of what could have been that’s not.
Now, I know better, I do not need to be anxious for anything. There are also the times that I beat myself up about the things I so desperately wanted, look at me now, I have them. Though not all, I'm making progress.
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Secondly, love is not defined by what people say, rather, it is an action. If I had known better, surely I would have paid more attention to the people who were less vocal with their words but showed me in every possible way that they loved me to pieces.
So that I wouldn’t fall helplessly or believe blindly when people hurl sweet jargon my way. Now, I know not to only pay attention to words but also to actions. So that when you say you love me, I ask myself if I feel it.
That I should NOT say ‘Yes’ when I actually mean ‘No’, and I should NOT say ‘No’ when I actually mean ‘Yes’. There were times when I said no when I actually meant Yes and vice versa, these moments would go on to trouble me afterward.
Now, I know to be confident in and true to my feelings or emotions regardless of how the involved parties feel. I would not inconvenience myself to please anyone. I’m human and my feelings matter too.
People say you only live once, yeah(YOLO)? Have I really lived? All my life I have been an indoor person, dreading social gatherings, even family functions. The few I graced with presence were forced. I made excuses when I was invited to any occasion…birthday, wedding, house warming, name it. You could almost never find Omosefe and fun in the same sentence.
Now, I want all of that, the beach hangouts, the gym sessions with friends, the parties, the hangouts, the weddings. I want to have all that fun, I want to live to the fullest. I no longer want to remain confined in my space. I want to savor every moment given to me so someday, I can look back and be happy that I truly lived. After all,
problem no dey finish so make I try dey enjoy
Lastly, true friendships are not easy to come by. Therefore, when I find them I should hold on to them because true friendships are made in Heaven. I know now to never take great friendships for granted, especially the friends who would stop at nothing to encourage and support me as I do them.
The truth is relationships will come and go until you find the one, but great friends, I mean…true friends will always be there for me so I should never joke with them.
That I should never take every moment spent with the ones I love because as you already know, death is inevitable. I wish I had told my late sister a billion times over that I loved her to pieces, and I was in awe of her.
If I had known that she would leave so early, I would have told her that she was my world and biggest motivation. Unfortunately, she’s not here anymore. Now, I know better.
I am the complete definition of love. I tell my friends every time I get to see them the ‘I love you’ words because I mean it. I hug every one of the people I know who care for a hug, sometimes I steal hugs. I will not let the day pass without reminding my loved ones that I absolutely love them with reckless abandon.
Remember, YOLO.
