Positively Negatively Yours

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Positively Negatively Yours
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Tried, tested, true, not true. Ever have someone in your life that causes long pauses? Positive and negative. Polar opposites. Duality wrapped up in one person, served up fresh, hot and cold, eat together and don’t over fold.

Coin flips, option number two, positive side of the coin. There’s this friend of mine, “J” that I’ve learned a great deal from. I knew J casually for a few years until we ended up spending more time together. J is a specialist in a field of medicine I’ve been interested in for years. It was an opportunity for me to learn and grow in this area, with J’s assistance. I’ve been lucky to have more than one mentor, but I’ve never connected with one like J before.
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DINNER

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Unspoken lessons were always a thing. Tests were sprung unannounced. Call them life lessons, since that’s what J always served up, often with steaming cups of triple shot espresso touched with a dab of hot water and a reasonable chunk of cream.

I learned quite a bit about this field of medicine and so much more. J loaned me reading materials for further study, was available for questions, assistance, and gave me access to resources, so I could practice hands on. Best of all, learning what I have learned has put me in a position to be much more autonomous, aware, and informed, regarding my own health care. That knowledge and experience, over a period of years is invaluable to me.
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FLOWERING FACE

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Flip the coin over for option number four, negative coin side. Somewhere around the three month mark of spending more time with J, my intuition told me to tread carefully. Nothing I could pinpoint specifically, just little rumblings of caution in my gut. When that happens with anyone, I focus in like a laser beam. I’m watching, but I say little to nothing. I wait.
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STEP CAREFUL

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Not long after that, situations of a questionable nature arose. Ongoing repeated attempts to goad me into indulging in activities that were not in my best interest and potentially damaging. Lies. Games. Manipulations. Selfishness. Narcissism. Self-service at the expense of others. Sleight of hand cloaked behind a very charming façade. The other side of J, hidden in the shadows.
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HIDDEN THINGS

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Specific scenarios I won’t detail due to privacy. There wasn’t one scenario. There were many over a period of years. J gave everyone the same treatment, whether they realized it or not. Nothing outright dangerous to anyone’s life, but it was behaviour based solely on self-interest that was harmful to others at times.

High wire walk during those years. I was tested over and over again. It made me feel slightly insane at times, but I held my ground. J brought many challenges and adversity into my life that put me in a position of deal with it, or go crazy. It was like someone holding up a giant mirror of clarity on my crap. This side of the coin was a whole lot of not fun. I grew in ways that blew my mind. I wouldn’t change anything.
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BALANCE

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Wrap it, roll option two and four into one, careful not to choke biting off too much at once. Positive and negative influences. Opposite sides of the same coin, the same person. How did I manage this relationship for years? I focused on listening to my intuition every step of the way. Yes to this. No to that. Maybe to something else. All guided by my intuition in the moment.

Positive and negative exist in everything. Positive isn’t always positive, sometimes it’s something else. Negative isn’t always negative, sometimes it’s something else. Polar opposite ends with a spectrum running between. All experiences are an opportunity to learn. I learned and grew through both. Bottom line, intuition will always guide you true.
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INNER SIGHT

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All photos taken by Nine with a Pentax digital 35mm camera.
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We grow,change and evolve at a rapid pace. Those Long pauses are the best place to listen to intuition. The good,the bad, the ugly they all make an impact that can ultimately be positive.

Can't speak for anyone else, but thanks for weathering the storm and being you.

Lots of J's out there, if you can manage the situation well it's an opportunity for growth, sadly some people get caught in the old puppet strings.

Anyway, who the fuck am I, great post 😁

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Thank you @rubidio, I appreciate what you've said. I see everything as a learning opportunity. Adversity, in my opinion, is necessary for growth. If it's all easy, there's not much motivation to grow.

Definitely lots of J's out there. It's those pauses, observing, self-observation, knowing oneself that holds my ship steady in storms.

Anyway, who the fuck am I, great post 😁

LOL, a very interesting person?

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J seems like a shady character. Shady J. Reminds me of a J I know, they call him Crazy J. Sounds like you got around to telling J to F off, good for you.

Love that shot of the woman by the Take Care sign. Nice candid action there.

!PIZZA

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J is a shady character who received many shades of F off until boundaries were clearly defined, heehee. J's a little scared of me the last several years. 🤪😂(yes, stories there)

Love that shot of the woman by the Take Care sign. Nice candid action there.

Thanks! Isn't that hilarious? I've been taking rapid series shots of people, anywhere from 12- 25 or so. The expressions and gestures of people are fascinating. I get lucky with timing in some, like I did with this one. Sometimes it's all just trash though.

Thanks for coming by @brandt, always good to read your take.

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Do any of your unsuspecting rapid-series-shots models ever catch you in the act of rapid-series-shooting?

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Mostly not, but sometimes they do. Months ago, a delivery guy on a bicycle freaked out that I was taking photos and caught some of him. He did this while under at least 3 street video surveillance cameras, which I thought was ironically funny. I told him I'd delete all photos of him (which I did), but he still kept screaming at me.

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Seems like a good opportunity to remind people that we live in a mass surveillance state, and what they should really be screaming at is the government.

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I thought about that, but he was ready to get off his bike and punch the crap out of me, so I said nothing.

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He must have been a bike delivery guy for whatever Canada's equivalent for the CIA is.

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It's funny how the wheel turns and what once seemed so positive is revealed as not...Or just changes from positive to negative for whatever reason. That's just life I guess and we need to accept it. The most important thing is that we recognise the change and act on it accordingly.

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Yeah... We can't get so caught up in how things appear that we don't see the whole picture. Especially with a guy like J.

!PIZZA

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That happens more often than not. Usually, it's much less troublesome than this particular situation, which was a very complex one. An excellent learning opportunity though and no regrets because I listened to myself.

It is life and we do need to accept it, very true. Being aware and acting on that awareness are indeed crucial.

Did any of the photos strike your fancy?

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The sunflowers and looking through the wall were my favorites.

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Thanks for answering. I had the feeling the sunflowers might be one. 😊

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That guy sounds like a real challenge to have as a friend! I hope you are still being careful, if you are around him.

!ALIVE

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J was one of those challenges that was more intensive than others, lol. Paying attention is key. Careful is a good approach with anyone. Eyes open, ears listening. 😂

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😂🤣 You make me remember back in the days during secondary school, how a teacher of ours who was into literature makes us recite poems by heart.
We never knew it was going to go a long way, just did it because you'll be spanked if you don't.untitled.gif

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Narcisstic sociopaths are attracted to empaths and will suck the life out of us as long as we serve them a purpose. Call them out on it and watch them squirm - if only for our momentarily satisfaction - until they quickly regroup, turn the situation around and blame us for their defective behaviors.

To all the Js in the world, this is for you!
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Inner Sight is my favorite of your images and Flowering Face looks as though the poor bottom sunflower was forced to wear a face mask!

Sending you sunshine and happy thoughts for a superbly peaceful weekend! @nineclaws

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Nice description, I see you are familiar with such individuals. LOLOLOL, love your comment.

Inner Sight is my favorite of your images and Flowering Face looks as though the poor bottom sunflower was forced to wear a face mask!

You're killing me here, 😂😂😂. I don't know why only one of the flowers looked so unhappy, but I like your explanation. I'm really glad you liked Inner Sight. I was so lucky with the timing of that shot. I'll tell you a little secret about that shot. It's the very first photograph I've ever taken that hit that note of being really over the top, from my own critique.

Thank you @ninahaskin!

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What in the hell is that Hidden Things image?!

Zoomed in on something, it's that, I just don't know what that is. The hell is that? You know how dope that Take Care would make for a final image? 😉

Oops, seems I got to bla bla bla'ing about signage and forgot all about T or whatever his initial was.

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What in the hell is that Hidden Things image?!

It's an elaborate garden at a huge condominium.

"Take Care" as a final image would require a different post than the one I've written, subject matter issue, lol.

Oops, seems I got to bla bla bla'ing about signage and forgot all about T or whatever his initial was.

Thanks for stopping by and checking out my post!

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"All photos taken by Nine with a Pentax digital 35mm camera."

Nice Selfie... Bout time.

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Now which photo are you referring to? I don't see me in any of them.

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it is you...

we know it is...

I can see right thru you... lol

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You can, eh? Here's a b&w behind the scenes shot of me hiking.

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note, it's not a selfie, a friend took that shot

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