Bunch Of Losers| The Making
My name is Tommy Heartland, a teenager and a music addict. I love music of different genres and would wake up in the middle of the night if the sound of music, beautiful music is aired. No matter how deeply I have traveled in my sleep, such music can prick my sleeping sensor to cease, causing me to awake. My parents on the other hand never had an interest in music and as a result, they worked against my desire to listen to music and become a songwriter or a lyricist. Mom especially sees it as the devil's tool against this generation. In the center of all this, my emotions were never considered.
When I turned twenty, I gained admission to the premier university to study dietaries and food technology. This is course was one of the most lucrative at that time, yet my mind was still in to do music. With my parents, failure is not acceptable, so I gave my university program the utmost attention it needed. At graduation, I came top of my class. During the compulsory one-year service, I took pleasure in registering with the Musical Society of Nigeria (MUSON). There I was made to choose a musical instrument I will love to play. This is where my whores began. I ended up choosing the bass guitar as instrumentalist do not go it.
I learned the instrument with passion. It wasn't an easy task but I enjoyed doing all that needed to be done. I became a pro in no time. At the MUSON center, when a wedding feast was organized and the bass guitarist was held up in traffic far away in Ikeja, our music director requested that I be made to play for the live band. It was my first time. The report I got after the event was a booster for me to keep rehearsing to be the best bass-man in town.
Towards the end of my service year, I had already bagged a certificate as a certified national bass guitar player. For me, that is my most cherished academic qualification, not my university degree.
Career Choice cum the place of parents
Professionally, parents have been advised to play the role of a guidance counselor in the matter of choosing a career for their wards. With recent statistics, the number of children who choose a career base on parents' wishes is higher than those who took a career in their region of interest. This has accounted for the failure of students in their academic pursuits.
The famous Nigerian art, legendary Fela Anikulapo Kuti also loved music while his parents, his father specifically wanted him to be an attorney. He ended studying music against the wish of his parents. This was however he had made a degree in the course his parents wanted him to study.
Since parents will not be the one to go through the rudiments of studying a course or learning a trade, they should allow their wards to do what they intend to with their lives so far it is not any criminal.
A Child Stand To Gain The Following
• Increased self-esteem and self-confidence.
•Learn to express themselves healthily.
• The child will be understood and accepted better.
• Learn decision-making skills, also taking responsibility for his actions or inactions.
When a parent uses his/her children as guinea pigs for trial and error in career choice, it is called emotional incest. Let's not make children scape goats by choosing career for them and blaming the aftermath effect on them.
This unfriendly act parents is one way through which bunch of losers are created.
Hope you found the blog interesting and educating, hope to see again.
Wow this is very interesting and educative indeed, I was glued to it till the end.
This issue has been happening around us and still happening... Where parents make their kids study what they want their kids to study and not what the kids desire to really pursue.
The story of Tommy is a very good example to others out there who may be feeling pressured on what to study and how not to go against their parents.
Found my way to you post through @dreemport and I enjoyed the read, thanks for sharing
This was worth every bit of my time. I don't regret reading this. Indeed we often see this happening around us.
Parents always wants their children to study the course they choose for them instead of allowing the children to study the course their choice. This has actually affected a lot of people and like you said in this piece, children need to develop a high self esteem and learn how to express themselves if they truly want to win this battle against their parents.
Thanks for sharing this great piece. @dreemport directed me to your post.