My self-care is for me

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There might be some truth to saying that our outer appearance is not a quantifying measure of our self-worth, and it becomes mainstream for us to project our best appearance for acceptance. However, I'm at a stage where flaws and imperfections don't phase me, as all I see is my soul. That for me is beauty in itself. True beauty. It was never always like this though, and when it first happened, flashbacks to some of the biggest hurdles that I had overcome came rushing like a tornado, and I just stood there and smiled. It was a Eureka moment, of self-discovery, and I realised that the only validation that mattered was how I felt about myself. It was self-love, the kind that no one could ever take away.
Although I might have full acceptance of the physical changes I see, I have no intention of speeding up my ageing process. Hence the reason why, at least one day of the week, I take it slow and easy, and today is a perfect time.

My me-time is when I celebrate and appreciate my life and all the capabilities that my body allows. Going through life day after day without taking time to love and be kind to ourselves, causes us to lose connection with who we are, what makes us valuable, and uniquely us, that no one can replicate.

I say I'm accepting of the changes, yes, but do I rejoice when I see silvers and lines? No, why would I? Still, the ageing me gives me the confidence and high self-esteem to go on, knowing I've acquired much wisdom throughout the years.

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Stopping to look after ourselves is taking a conscious break; a break from our worries and stresses, which allows us to inject positivity into our minds.
Me time is a kind of stillness that allows me to feel, think, see; to be sensually present in the moment.

Something is stimulating about massaging my head, nurturing my hair, and sitting under this steamer. I feel happy hormones releasing, and I feel good about myself.

I feel so fuckin' good like I can take on the world and extend myself, my value to others.

We have choices, of course. We could take the time to self-destruct, but what good would that be, to ourselves and the world at large?

Me-time is checking that my mental and physical body is in alignment. We do feel sluggish sometimes, and a psychological and physical stretch does wonders. It's about rejuvenating, and building strength from within.

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I could play ignorant and deafen the sounds of age that my body cries, but I choose to listen to what it tells me, which is that the time to take care is now. I go inside to acknowledge the good that's within me, and I know the things that I'm grateful for.

Immortality does not exist, but what if it did tomorrow?

Would you care differently? Would you have regrets?

I do slip up sometimes and forget to care, so I am aware of what the repercussions can be. So on Sundays especially, I remind myself to wake up, get up, and make time for myself, regardless of all responsibilities.

We protect our homes, our loved ones, and our assets, yet we neglect to take care of our minds; The most powerful thing that only we have control of. Does that make sense?

Me time can be anything. Perhaps a daily mantra, a message, a song that reminds you to live, love, care, and be grateful simply because you've got life. Here's mine. This Nina Simone is a beautiful soulful song. I'm feeling soulful today, hence my black-and-white images.

Positive affirmations do wonders. No gimmicky ones that make us delusional, but ones that help to motivate and keep us grounded.

I hope that you'll enjoy it:)

Namaste 🙏

P.S. This post is about #SlowLivingSunday, from the Minimalist Daily Theme that you could check out.
All images were taken by me, and the music video from Youtube of course.
Thank you @qwerrie. This song resonates with me and has been played daily since you sent it to me 6 months ago. 🤗😇



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It's always good to take some me time. Nobody better to take care of you than you.

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I am one of the people who pay less attention to their physical appearance and it earned me the name old school

My siblings always say I am too outdated and my inner self gets most of my attention. This has been my style until I felt like I can create the balance between looking good and maintaining the good inner side of me.

Ageing is a gift, something many people would have traded their last penny if possible just to acquire. You have got a priceless gift and you are handling it just perfectly.

Me-time is quite important, I am always at the point of breaking before taking time out for myself but I forced myself to indulge in those activities that make me happy often and it helps. I feel refreshed and I most of the time evaluate my life during that time.

The hair tube, it is my first time seeing such... Thanks for sharing about your me-time with us.

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until I felt like I can create the balance between looking good and maintaining the good inner side

I think that's the best goal.

Ageing is a gift, something many people would have traded their last penny if possible just to acquire.

Absolutely! Growing old is a privilege.

Thanks for your lovely comment:)

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As we get older, sometimes we might forget to care that much for ourselves, we let all the responsibility starring at our face in every Conner's we turn to take over our mind. Creating a kind of balance between taking care of those responsibilities and ourselves is always a great thing and I'm glad that you still dedicate some part of your time to that.

I always have this saying at the back of my mind, if I don't take care of myself, who will?

I hope that your Sunday is fun, beautiful and lively. We still have two hours over here to enter into Monday.

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It seems that we are in the same time zone.
Yes, it's not easy to strike a balance sometimes with getting our tasks and chores complete and looking after ourselves.
I also think that we neglect ourselves more so in the digital age that has us working from home.

When I look haggard, my mind feels the same, so I need to take the time, for nothing extravagant, but just to uplift my mood and well-being:)

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When I look haggard, my mind feels the same, so I need to take the time, for nothing extravagant, but just to uplift my mood and well-being:)

I do find myself in the same position and by then, taking that timeout to care is usually refreshing.

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I feel so fuckin' good like I can take on the world and extend myself, my value to others.

I love how you phrased it, because it's exactly what it's about, and I wish more people saw it. You can only be as kind to others as you are to yourself. The better you feel in your skin, the more you'll be there for the ones who matter. So yeah, completely.

And Nina <3 It's 1 AM here, this cool breeze coming through and this song ~ feels like a million bucks, thank you!

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The better you feel in your skin, the more you'll be there for the ones who matter.

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It's 1 AM here, this cool breeze coming through and this song

I have fond memories of the midnight hour on my balcony with the moon so close, which made me feel like I could touch it... Combined with the sea breeze, waves crashing and the palms swaying, I was in total bliss in my hammock.
#goodtimes.

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Sounds like a dream <3 Have a great week, my friend!

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nurturing my hair, and sitting under this steamer.

I was wondering what the heck that thing was 😂. A head steam sounds like it would be nice.

Very wise words as usual.

Immortality does not exist, but what if it did tomorrow? Would you care differently? Would you have regrets?

That's an interesting thought to ponder.
I feel like many things would become meaningless for people

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Haha! The steamer attaches to a blowdryer, and it's convenient because it can be folded up. I think men enjoy it too, especially if it's a hair treatment with a methol effect. Super relaxing.


I feel like many things would become meaningless for people

I feel that people would worry less, for one... but I've always wondered about it:)

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I see Nina Simone at the end is like the perfect completion of this ensemble. It's really inspiring to see how well you're treating your body. Putting your mental health first even if it must have taken you a while to get there.
I'll just end by saying, even though you may be tired of hearing it that you look absolutely gorgeous.💞

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Yes, this Nina Simone is a mood 😊

Thanks for your compliments, I appreciate it:)))
Have a lovely week ahead 💐

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You're welcome. I enjoyed reading. Have a most beautiful week ahead yourself.🤗

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I love the Nino song, it doesn't matter if we have less of everything or nothing, but as long as we have life, that's all that matters.

And self love is the best care we can give ourselves. It's how we learn to appreciate ourselves, and be grateful for all that we've got.

Glad you make out time to take care of yourself.

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Thanks for your lovely comment, and I'm happy that the lyrics of the song resonated with you too:)
Have a lovely day!

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This is an uplifting read, soul, and body, sighs! we tend to put the weight of the world on our shoulders forgetting we are humans, mortal, and also need caring for. I'm also guilty of this, as a mother taking care of my family both extended, I forget myself in the process, I recently started at the mirror and saw a reflection of my forgotten self crying to be remembered, there and then I took that much-needed break to have my me time and it absolutely felt so good and liberating. Yes, out body needs more just like our soul, age and all.

I wonder If I can get a head warmer like yours in my country, looks like am item I would love to have.

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I wonder If I can get a head warmer like yours in my country, looks like am item I would love to have.

Yes, I think they should be available. It's a bonnet that attaches to a hand blow dryer.

You could see what's online and then check your local shop:)

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