My Birthday Wish had been.....[ENG - GER]

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Hello dear Hivers and Silverbloggers!

This is my first post here in the community after a break of more than eight months due to an unforeseen devastating tragedy in my life. Two Sundays ago, I celebrated my birthday, did not dine out with friends since my only one wish was to visit my husband in the Grinzing cemetery who passed away 8 months ago . I brought a red rose and couple of candles and said solemn prayers for wherever he is right now.

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Hallo liebe Hivers und Silverbloggers!
Dies ist mein erster Beitrag hier in der Community nach einer mehr als achtmonatigen Pause aufgrund einer unvorhergesehenen verheerenden Tragödie in meinem Leben. Vor zwei Sonntagen feierte ich meinen Geburtstag und ging nicht mit Freunden essen, da mein einziger Wunsch war, meinen Mann auf dem Friedhof in Grinzing zu besuchen, der vor 8 Monaten verstorben ist. Ich brachte eine rote Rose und ein paar Kerzen mit und sprach feierliche Gebete für ihn, wo auch immer er jetzt ist.

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Every year to celebrate the day, we would eat out lunch in our favorite restaurant. We´ve been together for 40 years and to be on the safe side, he always had a reminder of my birthday in his calendar. But there was only one instance he had forgotten my birthday and that was understandable during the time he was recuperating from an open heart surgery. After his release from the operating room, he was moved in the intensive care unit and was put into coma attached to a life saving machine. Four days after his operation, he wanted to go home, he felt so bad from the anaesthesia that he was hallucinating in the night and would call me in the wee hours asking me to come to the hospital right at those very moments so I could take him home. He said he had seen people surrounding his bed and was asked to come with them. After the fifth day, he asked the surgeon to go home because he was too scared and wanted to be cared for at home, where he would feel safer. He signed a waiver that he is responsible for his decision. So he went home and his wound had been taken cared of by our primary doctor who came to our house to change the wound dressing 3 days a week.

The following day after my birthday, he happened to ask what date it was, I told him and he said "what! it was your birthday yesterday! OMG, I´m a fool, I have forgotten about it!" Then he begun to sob like a child because he had forgotten about it. And I said to him, all other things did not matter...the best thing and most importantly was he made it with the surgery and was already at home to recover. Of course, the following weeks when he got better, we celebrated my day joyfully!

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Zur Feier des Tages gingen wir jedes Jahr in unserem Lieblingsrestaurant zu Mittag essen. Wir sind seit 40 Jahren zusammen, und um auf Nummer sicher zu gehen, hatte er immer eine Erinnerung an meinen Geburtstag in seinem Kalender. Aber es gab nur ein einziges Mal, dass er meinen Geburtstag vergessen hatte, und das war verständlicherweise während der Zeit, als er sich von einer Operation am offenen Herzen erholte. Nach seiner Entlassung aus dem Operationssaal wurde er auf die Intensivstation verlegt und an eine lebenserhaltende Maschine angeschlossen ins Koma versetzt. Vier Tage nach seiner Operation wollte er nach Hause gehen, er fühlte sich so schlecht von der Narkose, dass er nachts halluzinierte und mich in den frühen Morgenstunden anrief und mich bat, genau in diesen Momenten ins Krankenhaus zu kommen, damit ich ihn nach Hause bringen konnte. Er sagte, er habe Leute um sein Bett herum gesehen und sei gebeten worden, mit ihnen zu kommen. Nach dem fünften Tag bat er den Chirurgen, nach Hause zu gehen, weil er zu viel Angst hatte und zu Hause gepflegt werden wollte, wo er sich sicherer fühlen würde. Er unterschrieb eine Verzichtserklärung, dass er für seine Entscheidung verantwortlich sei. Also ging er nach Hause und seine Wunde wurde von unserem Hausarzt versorgt, der drei Tage pro Woche zu uns kam, um den Wundverband zu wechseln.

Am nächsten Tag nach meinem Geburtstag fragte er zufällig nach dem Datum, ich sagte es ihm und er sagte: "Was! Du hattest gestern Geburtstag! OMG, ich bin ein Narr, ich habe es vergessen!" Dann begann er zu weinen wie ein Kind, weil er es vergessen hatte. Und ich sagte zu ihm, dass alles andere egal sei... das Beste und Wichtigste sei, dass er die Operation überstanden habe und bereits zu Hause sei, um sich zu erholen. Natürlich haben wir in den folgenden Wochen, als es ihm besser ging, meinen Tag fröhlich gefeiert!


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“When we lose someone we love, we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.”... Anonymous

"Wenn wir jemanden verlieren, den wir lieben, müssen wir lernen, nicht ohne ihn zu leben, sondern mit der Liebe, die er uns hinterlassen hat"... Anonym

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Aw, that was so sweet of him. Wherever he is right now, he left you with beautiful memories you can always reminisce. Am sure he is looking over you all the time.

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I know he does just like that...thanks for a lovely comment. Have a wonderful week!

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Hello @mers

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Hello to you @tengolotodo...it's a pleasure to be in this community..many many thanks for the support!

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Thank you for posting and I would say Happy Belated Birthday, it is understandable why you were away for 8 months.

I can imagine him when he realised he missed your birthday. I am sure he was with you on yours this time wherever he is.

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Thank you so much for your birthday wish. I will try to post here more often, I have much to tell. I wish our community more power!

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Your husband still is with you. He continues to live in the love in your heart, the fond memories you shared together and by telling stories such as this one. Look for signs from him.❤❤❤

Happy belated birthday! @mers

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!LADY

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Thank you Nina darl, what nice comment you sent. Yeah he's always with me. Thank you too for the birthday wish! Love you and sending you my virtual hug!

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"Wenn wir jemanden verlieren, den wir lieben, müssen wir lernen, nicht ohne ihn zu leben, sondern mit der Liebe, die er uns hinterlassen hat"

Ein sehr emotionaler Post, der mich hat Nachdenken lassen. Den zitierten Text wünsche ich jedem Menschen der ähnliches durch macht zu verstehen.

LG Michael

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@mima2606....Danke vielmals liebe Michael, hat mich gefreut dein Kommentar zu lesen.
LG Mers

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Bin sehr emotional gewesen und den zitierten Text werde ich so weiter geben wie ich kann. Wünsche Dir viel Kraft und Stärke.

LG Michael

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Happy Birthday @mers after reading your post I felt something in my heart, I want to cry, I felt the love of your hubby to you and likewise.

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Thank you Judy... Sending hugs to you.

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Wishing you a valuable year ahead on your birthday. And may your departed husband find wings to sail into the next life with grace and joy.

Greetings from the south coast of Africa.

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Hello @julianhorack, it's nice to hear from you from the other continent. Thank you for your nice words and thank you for taking the time to read my post!

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Thank you for the new badge....more power @hivebuzz!

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Awesome work @mers! You're well on your way to reaching your Hive goals. Keep buzzing!

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“When we lose someone we love, we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.”... Anonymous

So thoughtful you are!

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I felt the pain and the will to move on over here ma'am @mers my tears wanted to fall but I dearly adore how strong you are right now. And I know your husband is smiling because you both have the chance to celebrate the best birthday of your lives together and even now. Because he never left his always with you. Happiest birthday po 🎂🎈💖

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Belated Happy Birthday Ate Mers! I know you miss him so dearly. Sending hugs.

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Thanks Met dear...!

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you must have loved him and loved each other very much because you talk so sweetly about him.

now those beautiful moments that you lived will fill the emptiness left by his absence.

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Yes indeed, he was a good guy who took care of me and me of him. Some couples split at an early stage of their marriage and ours had been for four decades the bond had been very strong. Thanks for leaving a lovely comment.

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The timing, especially the last with learning to live with the love they left behind, is something I maybe needed to hear at this time.
Thank You for this post!

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You are welcome.. glad that you dropped by. Thanks.

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I cannot imagine after 40 years together being without him. My heart and thoughts are with you. Please take your time coming back to blogging if you need it, as it will always be here when you return.

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Thank you for your thoughts, appreciate it leaving a lovely comment.

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“When we lose someone we love, we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.”... Anonymous

That's a beautiful way to look at it, but the missing will never go away @mers.

I remember when you told us about your sad and sudden loss and the foot injury, I hope it has healed nicely.

It's nice to see you back here again!

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Thank you so much dear @lizelle. I am really glad to be here again and hope to contribute more often in the community. Thank you for thinking about my foot, it has healed the conservative way...although sometimes I have sporadic pain once in a while but the pain is sustainable.
I am wishing our community more power! Have s blessed start of the new week and am sending virtual hugs to you from Vienna!

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