(Eng-Esp) Clarity about their development makes our children confident and overcomes fears.

Welcome to my Blog. When we are parents, there are certain stages in the life of our children that we know have to happen as it is part of their growth that we are terrified that they will arrive as it translates into a change in the life of that being that we see even as a baby, well and even if we reach old age our parents still see us as babies, and so do we with our children. My daughter has reached her development, and it is difficult to process as mothers that the womb of that baby that some time ago I carried in my arms and without realising it is preparing to be the place where in the future she will carry my grandchildren, it is very hard to process, but we have to assume it in a very mature way so that even with a little fear on her part before what happens to her body it does not become even more difficult, and she assimilates as part of a process in the life of a woman.

When I began to see the changes in her body, which were already taking on the characteristics of a woman, I prepared her for this moment, without any kind of taboo, it is very important that we speak very clearly to our children when they are old enough to understand these developmental processes that are part of the life of a human being, without hiding anything from them, but rather orienting them to what they are going to feel when they are close to their development, always talk to them about the changes in the colour of their discharge, the pains in their belly, and most importantly, that they notify me of any new developments, because if there is communication, I can guide them better, and take the necessary actions. It is very important that they have the confidence to tell us, I always tell her that as long as she communicates with me we can look for solutions, besides this enriches our relationship as mother and daughter, because mummy would feel very sad if her little daughter hid something from her out of pity or fear.

I have been surprised at how she has taken on this change in her life in a very mature way, as she herself writes down on a calendar when her next menstruation should come, and she tells me everything from when the colour comes, the pain, how long it lasts, if she has to change, she asks me about my menstruation as I do, she has assumed that it is a process that she cannot take out of her body. Yes, she has told me how annoying the period is for mummy, and of course it makes me sad because it is a process in a woman that is not very pleasant, and to see it as my girl already has to live it, makes my heart crumple because I cannot avoid it, and there is nothing a mother can do so that her children do not suffer, but here I cannot do anything, I can only make her understand that it is part of the process of a woman, I only help her to assume this process as normal, and prepare her for how she should act, when she is in her days.

Daddy, mommy, the clearer we are with them in all aspects, the more we will make of our children, men and women who will not become victims of deceit, fear, falsehoods, and bad times due to ignorance. The best thing we can do with them is to live and talk about each stage of their lives in a very clear and communicative way, guiding them at all times, and that it is through us that they discover everything about the stages of life, which they then reinforce with education, and not through friends, who can cause them a lot of harm, as they do not have the maturity or the suspicion of a parent to make them understand in the best way.