The Lesson I cannot Forget -| HIVENAIJA WEEKLY PROMPT 20
Life was fun when I had my grandma around. I was completely in pain when she died and I was to live with my grandfather. The love I had for my grandma made me not feel or see any love shown to me by my grandfather. The praises he sang to me just for me to be happy and do the chores I have to do in a happy state.
For several years I refused to love or see any good in what my grandfather was doing. One day, I saw my grandfather lying helpless on the bed. He wasn't healed, the only thing I could remember he took that day was this hot gin which I guess he took too much.
It was a very unexpected sleep,one that lasted forever. I wasn't close to my grandpa but that incident made me realize that we might feel we don't need a particular person in our life only to realize that we actually love that person when something tragic happens.
It was when I found out he wasn't responding that I felt the first shock in my life. I rushed by his side , my scream was what attracted the attention of others. He was rushed to the hospital and all I could think about was who would keep me company.
After some time, I found out he was contributing to my emotional well-being. I realized the wonderful memories he shared with me I didn't value. I felt so bad for not making him happy as he tried to make me feel.
I remembered the time he would wait outside trying to keep me company until I finished making supper. Trying to engage me with stories of his youthful age and how his entrepreneurial spirit paid off. All these I would be paying deaf ears to not minding if he's pained or not.
It was after his departure that I realized that valuing others is a necessity in life. I didn't value his presence in my life and that same presence was the same thing I sought for but couldn't find a replacement even till now. Cherishing beautiful moments with others can mean so much to them.
The experience taught me to see reasons to create a lasting memory with people who care about me. I should be able to reciprocate the same love and time they are trying to show me. I was unable to appreciate my grandfather, it was when he was no more I saw meaning in his acts but there was no more chance for me to show my gratitude.
It was after his departure that I realized that valuing others is a necessity in life. I didn't value his presence in my life and that same presence was the same thing I sought for but couldn't find a replacement even till now. Cherishing beautiful moments with others can mean so much to them.
With that mistake already made, I have been careful and striving to make the best out of every moment I share with people that value my worth and show me genuine love. I realized that my never trying to see the love and kindness my grandpa was showing me made me live a life of 'I'm sorry grandpa' with the unexpected incident, I have grown to learn that there is no point postponing anything which is of use and it's impactful.
This is one very important lesson to learn. Valuing those in our lives. It's said that we don't value what we have until we lose it. Fortunately, I've been close knot with every member of my family. Nothing in life is certain. And one thing I'd never want to be is a regret. I try as I can to live happily and show truly the people in my life how much they mean to me.
I give them their flowers now. Not later.
This was a reminder and I thank you greatly for it.
I mean, that's very important for everyone to do same and I'm glad I learnt that even though the what happened was tragic. Letting people who mean so much to us know we love and value them in indeed important.
The value of a thing is not known until it's lost...
I cried reading your post because I've been there and done the same thing.
After my dad passed away I was always so pissed at my mom, I felt she didn't love me as much as my dad did. It was after she passed on that I realized how much she cared and loved and wanted to see the best in me and also how she had to work twice as hard to do the things she did for me.
Death is inevitable, all we can do is learn from the past and hold onto everyone who's caring for us, and also reciprocate every act of love
Thanks for sharing dear❤
It was actually very painful. Learning from the past is important and not allowing such to repeat is important.
Wow ... this lesson is very deep! No wonder this adage that says "the toad will understand the importance of water only when the water gets dry"
I wouldn't blame you for not reciprocating the love your grandpa showed you while he was alive...the good thing is that you learnt from the mistake and it's a nice life lessons. Value who value you, return same love and kindness..that's interesting 😍
Thanks for participating ✅😇
That adage is not only for toad but relate to humans too. Seriously, I was a perfect example and it was a painful experience. Yeah, I learnt from it and I'm living my life to place those who care about me in the right place they belong in my life.
Hmmm!! One beautiful thing I love with everything life brings at us is the lessons it leaves. They say we will never know the value of what we have until we loose it.
Your story reminded me of my dad, I never reciprocated the love he showed me, not even once, I can't remember ever telling my dad I love him till the day he passed on. I never knew how important he was until when he left that space vacant. I missed him badly but then it's life. Everyday of my life I regret my stupid actions but then, it taught me something big. Everyone around us is very important, the little time we have with them we should always treat them right and make them feel loved because we don't know what the next minute holds
Chaaaai. These like this happens and the truth is that we don't even see it as something wrong only to discover we had been so foolish when we realize.
You are very right, no one knows what we happen in the last second, valuing people is really very important.