Reflexionando con mi hija sobre la Justicia [ESP-ENG]
Hello my dear Motherhood community, it is a pleasure to share with all of you, wishing you to be well with your loved ones. Today I am here to share with you an experience that happened to me yesterday regarding my daughter Marialex, it is about a topic that when those moments come for many can be complicated to explain to you, it is about justice.
And I express myself in this way, because when we look around us it becomes more evident that people have ceased to be fair in their actions and it is there that our children see all this and can take a wrong concept of it. Yesterday as usual I was talking to my daughter on the phone and it turns out that she was a little discouraged because her Spanish teacher had taken some measures that for her was not the most appropriate, because in her section in the high school there is a small group of students who are presenting bad behavior and this made the teacher to take measures against that.
When she starts to tell me even though I know her, I can't miss the usual question: "How are you behaving? Because I know that boys in groups sometimes imitate others to fit in, and it would be illusory to think that our children are always angels, this mistake could be serious for the boy. And following the conversation with my daughter, she is disappointed because the teacher had called a meeting with all the representatives of the section to discuss this discipline problem with the teacher.
And in that conversation she expressed to me that it was not fair that she did that, since those who were bothering were a group of six students and it had led to her grades being lowered, because the others did not stop bothering in class and the teacher generalized that being a reason for my daughter to disagree. Listening to her, to be honest, it did not seem to me at the time, but if I expressed my feelings I know that it would not help my daughter at all, on the contrary, it was like adding fuel to the fire, starting from this point I had to make her reflect on that because as a parent I think my role is to help her to prepare herself to a reality that today is the daily bread when talking about the issue of injustice.
The first thing I did when she finished talking, is to tell her that I understand her for feeling this way because I also went through that situation in my high school days, and it doesn't feel good when you are played like everyone else. In this conversation I wanted to make it clear to her that she had to be prepared, what she was going through was one of many circumstances that she could experience in her life, and so I asked her that in spite of that, in order to touch her heart more: Are you bothering your classmates? Do you shout in class like they do? When he said no, we talked about the importance of not doing so, it is true that the teacher called everyone's attention and therefore his representative, but he was motivated to make the correction reach everyone if someone else wanted to join them.
In short, the fundamental thing is to let our children know that even if they do not express it directly, our good behavior is always visible and that is why we must always maintain the same behavior, in the end it will have good results, so we must handle situations in the best way when we are treated unfairly. As a father I am very happy that my children feel that freedom to express me what they feel, and because of that is that I must strive to know how to listen to them so that this side does not break and most importantly to be able to be me who advise them in the best way because many could give them distorted information and make them commit serious faults in their behavior to have a bad concept of justice.
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