Self-love is something that we all must cultivate in our lives, it is something so essential because it is a quality that makes us flourish or not, other areas of our life also depend on self-love.

But to have self-love we must first doubt to know that we are loving, we must be aware of what we love, we can not love what we do not know, we can not love the unknown, to love yourself first you must be aware of what you are.

Sometimes and for some people it is very difficult to answer this simple but profound question, because there are situations that make us lose the direction or the sense of what we are. For example, there are times when we act differently depending on the people who are with us, am I the same person with everyone? Certain situations cause our self-esteem to diminish.

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A profile of who I am and what I love

Many times in order to define and love who we are we must put a package or a set of needs that can give us a broader picture of what we want. A package of needs, desires, wishes, longings, beliefs, virtues, defects, passions, abilities, preferences, impulses, motives, can create a broader picture of what we are and thus we can build our own identity, if we have not already built it.

Now the construction of identity is based on belief and on the basis of another, by this I mean that you can base your identity on your own beliefs. How do you see yourself? What do you believe you are? Are you valuable? Are you worthy of love and respect? Do you remember a time when you received a compliment and it felt good and maybe you modified some behavior, because you based your personality on a belief.

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Being sovereign and respected

Knowing and recognizing your needs is perhaps a very important step in the creation of self-love, as it allows us to know in a general way what we need and how we can get what we want.

Another thing that helps us in the creation of self-love is the fact of being sovereign in our decisions, because we cannot walk like a ship adrift in a sea that has more and more ways of thinking and these ways are increasingly aggressive.

Demanding respect is an act that many times may seem difficult and many times it is, but it is something that triggers our own value and our value perceived by other people, we must never accept less from people than what we deserve.

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Self-praise or self-criticism

We tend to be our strongest critics, and sometimes it is not bad, the bad thing is to take the criticism beyond the healthy levels of this, because many times people will not care that you have made a mistake in something, we often over exaggerate our mistakes.

On the contrary, we do not usually give too much value to the good things that we do and that we have. How many times do you praise yourself for the good things you did? When was the last time you praised yourself for having done something well?

Many times our internal dialogue ends up hurting us more than it helps us because we tend to give more importance to the negative than to the positive.

To finish this post, which I hope you have enjoyed, I would like to know what you thought, please leave me a comment, I would appreciate it.

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