El bullying viene desde casa [ESP-ENG]
Nowadays we are living in a world where bullying towards children has become constant although this does not come from now but from many years ago. Parents are responsible for instilling values to children, that is why there is so much bullying, we have to change the pattern of life that is if you were raised with blows or verbal abuse, do not do it with your children they are not to blame for your upbringing, rather should be given lots of love and understanding, I know that sometimes we shout unconsciously but we must control our impulses.
I will tell you from my experience; when I was a child I suffered what today is called bullying, the truth is that at that time you do not hear that word; however bullying is not only physical but also verbal blows. I was called bombona, tank, fat suitcase among other names, which marked my childhood, the reason was to have extra kilos and wear orthopedic boots that I could not remove, those boots had tubes to the hips that made them make fun of me.
It was not only the children who laughed at me but also their parents, when I went out to play in my house I had a friend who always started to say when her mother arrived, the gas cylinder arrived, when you stop eating you will roll like a ball, at first I did not pay attention but it became a torture for me so many times she told me, one day I could not stand it and ran to where my mother was crying, Luckily I had the support of my parents, I remember the words of my mom (daughter in the world there are bad and good people, we should only cover our ears when they tell you ugly things, nothing lasts forever those boots you wear them for your health and I assure you that life will surprise you when you are older you will be grateful for what you will be, she gave me a hug which made it all happen).
Without leaving behind the mistreatment at school from the teachers to the children, I only had one friend to play with, nobody would come near me, I don't know if they believed that this was contagious because they didn't even talk to me; I cried a lot when I got home, the truth is that with the help of my parents I could see life in a different way, they taught me that everything has a process, good things take time to come. That's how I spent practically all my childhood until my adolescence where I took a big turn, they took away my orthopedic boots with a good result, I also got sick for a long time that made me lose weight from one moment to another, my life changed completely, I felt that everything I lived in my childhood made me a better person.
Even though I suffered verbal abuse, my parents were always there in any situation which made my days a nightmare, it was not easy but with the love of my family I was able to get ahead, what really helped me was not to keep quiet and always tell them what I was living, do not believe for them it was also difficult, there was not a day that I was happy.
However they made me a good person and see life differently; for that reason it is important not to repeat the cycle of life we lead, we have to give a lot of love to our children, we are responsible for creating an excellent person, education comes from home if you mistreat him he will mistreat, if you give him love he will give love. No more mistreatment of children, no more bullying that today is often experienced.
With my experience I want to tell you that it was not easy, I learned to say things to get ahead; it taught me that everything happens for a reason, today I have a son which I give him all the love I can, sometimes a scream escapes me but I control myself, I remember what my childhood was and I try to understand him, with patience everything is possible.
Guao amiga imagino todo lo que sufristes, tienes mucha razón cuando dices que esto viene de casa, los niños muchas veces solo repiten lo que escuchan y los papás en ves de orientarlos se ríen como si fuera una gracia. Me encantó leerte.
Así es amiga aveces hacemos y decimos cosas feas delante de los niños y ellos lo que hacen es repetir por eso es que somos responsables de enseñarle buenos modales a nuestros hijos. Gracias por la visita amiga @emmaris saludos!