Educar diferente a nuestros hijos[ESP-ENG]
Hello community today I will tell you a story which has me quite concerned about the upbringing that every mother gives her child, of course everyone is responsible for the way they raise their children but sometimes we repeat the bad things that were done to us. In my case it was not like that, I thank God because I grew up in an environment full of love, I will not lie to you if they yelled at me sometimes but they never hit me, I do not know if it was because I was a super quiet girl, I did not give my parents worries.
However, I am surprised by a friend who I have heard her tell her child who is only 6 years old things that affect a child and even more at that age, besides that she yells at her if she falls, yells at her if she cries, yells at her for everything, I feel that this is not the way to tell things to a child but everyone raises their child the way they want.
On the other hand I want to tell you what this can affect a 6 year old girl ; Last weekend several children were together because we always meet after our husbands finish playing baseball, that is like our meeting point, the children go to play in the field when it is unoccupied, just arrived a friend who came from Peru has a 4 year old child, the truth is not if it is because he is arriving new but the child is too quiet, he did not want to take off from his mother however we insisted him to go play with all the children to be distracted a little.
I think that was the worst mistake we made, my 1 year old baby was playing with all of them, luckily I brought him with me to give him water, at that moment the mother of the 4 year old boy came running out because two girls, including the one who always mistreats him, were kicking the boy who was lying on the floor, The truth was surprising the aggression towards this child, they hit him so hard that he got a big purple bump on his forehead, the girl's mother asked her what happened, crying she answered that he pushed her and as you tell me mom I have to defend myself; I thought my friend was going to tell her that this was not the right thing to do, but she told her that it was okay, she had to break his mouth.
The truth is that I am still surprised, I can't believe that a mother would say those things to a child, I feel that her way of raising her child is going to make her child practice abuse towards other children; since I have known them I have not seen her receive love from her mother even though she is a big girl we should not forget to give her love, I remember that when I was in high school my parents still hugged me, they spoiled me and I was already a teenager they did not mind continuing to give me love.
Considering what happened, out of curiosity I asked my friend how her mother was with her, she told me that she even gave her with the brush sticks and yelled at her for everything, in fact she told me that she does not have a good mother-daughter relationship because of the abuse towards her, I told her I do not want to get into your upbringing or anything like that, I respect the way you want to raise her but I think you are repeating the same thing with your child, later you will see the consequences of that; The truth is that you have to observe yourself so that you realize what you are doing, her response was that if I was raised that way, that is the way I am going to raise her so that she can see what is good and what is bad.
Imagine with that answer my surprised and worried face, she is so wrong that she does not realize the harm she is doing to her daughter, but as I said, everyone is responsible for the way they raise them, I only know that the best pattern is to raise them with love; the truth is that it made me a good person, I did not need neither blows nor mistreatment to choose the path of good.
Pues sí, más allá de la experiencia que cuentas, un error común es querer que nuestros hijos sean una versión de nosotros mismos, o hasta que cumplan con aquello que nosotros no logramos. Creo que es mucho mejor darles las herramientas necesarias para enfrentarse como seres únicos e individuales a las circunstancias de sus propias vidas. Gracias por el contenido!
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