LOH Judge: What two questions would I ask? #151
Life is beautiful, but it wasn't written anywhere that it would be a bed filled with roses.
One characteristic of life is uncertainty and risk, just like in business. We make plans and take the risks of implementing those plans without knowing what the product will be, but we stay optimistic about it.
No one knows tomorrow, and at the same time, it is also risky to not take risks in life.
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If I were to be the judge for the ladies of hive community this week, my questions would be centered on life, people, and reality.
As we all know, when a topic is discussed, people always come up with their own opinions, and one can learn from those opinions which path is better.
Yesterday evening, after lectures, I went to a restaurant to buy food because I was very hungry. I walked up to the food vendor, told her everything I needed, and after a few minutes, the meal was delivered.
As I sat down to enjoy that meal, the conversation on the restaurant's radio caught my attention.
At first, I listened as several callers called in to give their opinions on the topic that was being discussed. I paid close attention until the host read out the topic again and encouraged more listeners to call in and give their opinions.
The question goes thus:
Suppose your partner doesn't get along well with someone, should you also feel resentment towards them?
When looking at the question, it doesn't seem like one would struggle with the answer, but did you know things like this can cause relationships to crumble?
There are many instances where one's partner would want their own partner to inherit their enemy.
So, if you ever find yourself in such a situation, how will you handle it?
A similar thing happened between me and my partner a few years ago. I saw him holding grudges against certain people, and each time I greeted them, it caused a problem between us. He wanted me to hold grudges against them, but I didn't feel like it was fair.
I know a lot of people would have something to say on the topic, and I would like to read them.
The second question I have is: You and your partner took a break because you were both experiencing problems that were hard to resolve. After about three months, your partner apologized to you and requested that you both give the relationship a chance to work again, which you both agreed to.
Then, a few months later, you discover that your partner had impregnated a woman who had given birth. The whole time you were together, he never told you anything. Now that you have found out, his explanation is that he was afraid to tell you because he didn't want to lose you, and it wasn't something he planned.
Also, he explained that the woman in question disappeared and reappeared when she was far along with the pregnancy so she could carry out her plan to keep him because she was so desperate.
How would you handle the situation if you were the partner? Would you forgive him? Will you give the relationship a chance to work again?
So if I were to be the LOH judge for the week, these are my questions. What do you think?
Good questions, especially that first one! Bravo! 💜
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Both very interesting and thought provoking! Thanks for sharing and have a lovely day!
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Wow, these are thought-provoking questions especially the first one, Aside from happening between partners, it also happens between friends, siblings and family members and I think it is a nice question to ask.
#dreemerforlife
Yeah, they are. It true, it happens between family and friends too :)
Very dicey topics.
For the first question "I do not think it's the right thing for me to inherit my partner's enemies. The best I can do is try to persuade them to be friends again.
That we are partners isn't enough reason for me to do what my conscience will condemn.
#dreemerforlife
That's how I feel too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Hmm... 🤔 This questions are simple but tricky either ways you choose to go about it, you might end up making a wrong decision and offending the other.
But the second question: I really don't have a stomach for second wife and if I love him too much then we will find a way around it, that is only if we are already married but if we are not then I will call it a .
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Good afternoon sis.
This makes me remember a short video I watched a while ago. It says that women should not love their husbands, it's not their duty to love the man.
She went on to say that it is wrong for a woman to love her husband, and that what is expected if a woman is to marry a man she can submit to, not to marry a man she loves. She emphasized the fact that the man must love the woman he marries.
I'm not a lady so I will try to attempt the question from a ladies point of view.
For the first question, I don't think any right thinking partner should expect their spouse to have grudges against there enemies because they do, everyone is expected to have their own perspective and be the judge of who they are willing to roll with or hate. Just like you can't also force your spouse to be friends with people you are friends with.
But let say it does happen, in order to maintain such relationship, you might need to compromise your values but not to the case it might hurt your self-esteem, for instance if your partner hates some people and want you to hate them too, you can simply abstain from such people and that doesn't mean you will hate them, you are just staying away from them to allow peace to reign in your relationship and also the lady or man should explain to his/her partner that, that is all he/she can do. If the partner still demand more, I don't think that relationship is meant to be because a reasonable partner should always try to understand their spouse.
For the second question, it all depends on what the lady can live with or tolerate, it also depends on how well the lady knows the guy, if the guy is known for being honest and have integrity, the lady can forgive him and accept him back but if the guy is known to tell lies there is no point in forgiveness because he might just be telling a lie to persuade the lady.
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#dreemerforlife
Thank you so much for this amazing comment.
I like that you said you weren't going to answer the question from a lady's point of view.
There is wisdom in what you've said, it makes sense. And it is actually a good approach to an issue like that. But one would still need to address it with their partner because I doubt it is something one would be able to keep up with for a lifetime.
Simple. Amazing points.
Thanks so much for leaving this amazing comment, bro.
You are welcome
Life is a risk that we all are taking each day.
Holding grudges against others does not sound fine, all in the name of supporting your friend or partner.
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