Emotions- (Nostalgia). Do them a favour, and it becomes your Job.

They've turned kindness into being stupid. Just because to do them a favor, they will turn the favor to their right and won't appreciate you.

They make it difficult for one to help people nowadays. Would one say they are ungrateful? Or say they are overdoing things

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This article is based on a true story of how I did someone a favor, and I got something else in return.

I used to be a systematic guy. What I mean by systematic is that I'm always cautious with everything I do.

So, there was this guy that came one day and told me to borrow him my perfume that he has a special place to go and he needed to smell nice. He lives on the first floor, while I stay on the last floor.

Firstly, I thought of it as if it was right for someone to come all the way from his room to borrow perfume. But as a good fellow what am I supposed to do? I gave him the perfume, which he used all over his body, and returned it to me.

The following day, he came again to ask for the same thing. I gave him again since he already knew I had. If this guy sprays perfume, he would spray it on all parts of his body including his hair, fingers, and foot.

That was how it became a normal routine for him. Whenever he's going out he'd come and ask for perfume. Even I myself, the owner, I don't use it every single day. This guy used the perfume till its last drop.

Meanwhile, when I realized the perfume has almost finished, I gave it to him to hold it and stop coming to disturb me, since he is the main user of the perfume.

I bought a new perfume and decided not to share it with anyone this time around. The first day I used the new perfume, this guy perceived the smell from my body. He came to me and asked for perfume, I was shocked " how would you still have the guts to come and ask for perfume after using up the first one"

"I can't share this new perfume with you," I told him. He walked away, it was clearly shown in his face that he was angry.

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Ever since I refused to give him the new perfume, the guy has been showing me attitude. If he sees me, he won't even say hi. Even if I say hi to him, he won't reply. I was now asking myself where I was wrong. I couldn't hold it to myself, I asked my friend if I was wrong with what I did. Then he gave me the phrase "Do someone a favor, and then it becomes your job"

There are lot of ungrateful hearts out there. They would make one feel indepted to to them. When I'm not owing you anything, why do you bring all your problems to me. It is still fine if I can help, but because I couldn't help you for a day you changed to me. Who does that?

That's when I realized humans think differently. Same way, we have shame differently. What that guy did is what I can never do in my life. Inconveniencing someone of his/her property is what I hate. If I know the owner something is for individual use only, even if I'm going to borrow from such a person, it won't be more than once.

But that is life for you, everyone can never be the same. You need to learn not to be too vulnerable. Because they don't care if you are helping them or not, they will misuse the opportunity given to them.

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