The Best Way To Move On: Love Yourself Even More.

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If the person you love doesn't love you or like you right now, that's fine. Love yourself more so that when you get to the point where you meet someone, that person will love you instead.

Your troubled heart pleads again and again. It also repeatedly tells you that if it's possible please stop, that's okay, stop first. But you're still keep going, you're still going through the pains in life that you feel. You still give your love to the fullest even though you know to yourself that it's so wrong, what's your plan? To let yourself be destroyed even more?, isn't the pain enough? Do you want to hurt yourself more? Can't you take care of yourself? Take care and don't let yourself get hurt or unable to cry. Can't you just listen to your thoughts? Don't put love in your mind, live for yourself. Love can't save you when the day comes when it's all too much. You will be hurt more by the fact that you are clinging not because you want to, but because that is the only way you can do it.

Every morning you'll wake up with tears in your eyes, checking your phone to see if he has a text or chat with you but you see nothing. It affected you to the point that you ended up crying more, stopping yourself to text or chat with her and at the end you grab your phone again and start texting them, "How are you?" You said, but you didn't receive even one reply.

It's even more painful if the person you used to love is happy with someone else, you'll feel the pain inside you like you're being killed. You will be completely shattered while in pain because you can't let them go. There's nothing wrong with giving love, but you know what makes it look wrong? The love that should be there's a limitation but you give it to the fullest. Maybe, in part you wouldn't know the true meaning of love when you didn't experience being hurt by someone you love so much.If that person really loves you, then why did they hurt you? There's a question in every pain we feel, those questions are not basically questions because some of them are the answers of why you should love yourself more than others.

They are not easy to understand because, like why would we love ourselves if someone could love us, right? That's what other people think, they can't love themselves because they know someone loves them. I mean, they basically love themselves but the problem is that most of the love that she or he needs to give to herself/himself is more given to a person who doesn't deserve that love. How can I say that person doesn't deserve it? It's because they didn't think twice before hurting you. They become selfish to the point that they are only listening to themselves and not listening to you. At the end, you will be blamed because you like this and like that that's why they do this and that and that is so wrong.

How can they blame you for something you can't do? A simple question with a simple answer, right? Because they are not contented of who you are. That's why there's a saying that, you shouldn't give your love to the fullest that almost comes to the point that you will blame yourself for loving that person too much in the end.

Can you even understand what you want? Or you just depending on what others will say? I know you just want to love someone who will love you back, but technically that's not correct either. I mean, being in love as a matter of fact? There's nothing wrong with that, but you know what's wrong? You already forgot to love yourself but instead you love someone more than that. Even me, I've experienced losing my mind to myself because of loving someone too much. It almost caused me to have a hard time moving on because I want that person to be mine. But as time passed, I realized that what I did was wrong. I mean, I shouldn't beg for someone who doesn't want to stay especially when that person hurts me.

And after that, nasabi ko sa self ko, "I should love my self more than them." Kasi totoo naman, we cannot deny the fact na loving ourselves than other people helped us to understand everything.

The main reason why we should love ourselves more than anyone else.

Going back to the first one, I mentioned that I shouldn't beg for someone, right? What you read is correct. I beg for someone before that I shouldn't have done. I mean, I'm just human and I love that person to the point that I shouldn't be. But since, I still don't have any idea on how to control myself, I'm already loosing it. I believed more, that if I show that person that I love them so much they will choose me and they will stay instead, which is super wrong with the mindset I have. I ended up almost losing everything because of my own choices and my own mindset, that's when my thoughts started, *"No, this is wrong, I shouldn't be this way, this is so wrong." * and after that?, I let myself live the way I want by taking my experience as a lesson.

After that, I took a long break when it comes to love. What I think is that it's better as long as I learn to love myself without loving anyone except my family. And that's where I figured out what's important, what's most important is to let myself love ME than wasting my time loving the people who used to hurt me.

So the main reason why we should love ourselves more, it's because if we don't love ourselves, insecurities will eat us. I mean, we will keep judging someone or other's because we have insecurities to ourselves. You will keep asking yourself like, is there anything that I don't have? Why the person I used to like, liked someone instead of me? What's wrong with me?

But if you love yourself, trust yourself, everything will follow. You will come to the point that everything will be easy or you to understand, when someone hurts you then you already know your worth and you will not let yourself to be hurt by someone who doesn't deserve you. And that's the end of it, you're a winner.

Thank You For Reading!
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That's what I do when I seemed lost because of losing love... I found myself again when I love it back..

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