RE: Memories Of Free Birthing My Daughter and The Importance of Choice.
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This looks beautiful and dangerous at the same time. Even though our ancestors had no hospitals to give birth in, several women were lost to childbirth then when compared to now. Not every woman has the strength and endurance to give birth on her own like you did. Not being the first birth made it easier, I will say.
I lost my first wife to childbirth. She had the baby by CS after which she died. Doctor said she died as a result of eclampsia. This is someone that went through ante natal and observed all the necessary procedures. The experience left me devastated. You will understand my fear if I say I will never support giving birth on your own in the absence of a trained expert.
Good write nevertheless.
I am so sorry for your loss @gentleshaid and I completely understand why you would not support my decision.
I was never in danger though, I took full responsibility for myself and my baby and if I felt either me or my baby, was I would have sought out a birth attendant. For me it is all about women being informed and making informed choices and having the support to do so. We are all different and everyone's decision should be respected. xx
With experience come confidence. If my wife decides to do free birth after 2 children, I might support her (perhaps with medical professionals on the standby). It should be a collective decision between spouses, knowing that the husband only wants the best and the safest route. If something goes wrong, the trauma it will cost the husband and other family members should also be considered.