LOH #84 The Experience Of Being A Firstborn And The Rewards Of My Worth

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Hello my dear friend…
Here i come to share my entry to Ladies Of Hive community’ contest. Both of the question are interesting and i feel like i want to answer both of them even though just shortly.

The first question would be, “What was your position (in terms of birth) in the family? How did that experience help you become, or hinder you from becoming a successful adult?”

Here is my answer:
I am the first born out of 5. Its clear that being the first born mean that we have more responsibility compared to our younger siblings. When i think back, i dont think i ever hate the fact that i am a first born even when i was younger. I always enjoy the fact that i have four lovely younger siblings. They’re always warmed my heart. Not to forget the fact that it means we the first born have the most authority out of them all. I know that we’re not in military but rank does matter in real life. We should show dominance to keep our subordinates, partners, friends, or in this case our siblings not crossing the line. It is important to treat them kindly as a friend yet give them some reason to fear and respect you.
The experience of being the first born never hinder me in any situation of my life. I would not say anything about successful adult because i dont know what kind of success we’re talking about here. Being the first born trained me to have a lot of strength, confidence, tenacity, and other things i cant even tell because its a lot. I learnt that i should be strong, yet have a lot of compassion. It teach me to be selfless for my family, Maybe because my younger siblings can’t understand a lot of things yet. It gave me a dream of a future. The future family i wang to build on my own.

For the second question, “Everyone has an opinion about her/his self-worth. Do you feel you're being rewarded enough for yours? Remember that rewards are not always in monetary form.”

Here is my answer:
To be honest, i dont know from whom i should expect myself to be rewarded. But the only thing i can think of are reward from the universe, God included. I think that i am so blessed and worth a lot. I dont know what is inferiority. I think that universe rewarded me with a lot of convenience to see the world is such a beautiful place. There can be storm but i can still view the world as such a beautiful place (chillingly beautiful but still), I can have no money yet i will never think my life is ending. I think that gratitude feelings are the best reward this world can give to someone. With gratitude in our heart, you can turn tears and pain into something beautiful.

For this week contest, i will ask @sweetest to join too.



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It teach me to be selfless for my family, Maybe because my younger siblings can’t understand a lot of things yet. It gave me a dream of a future. The future family i wang to build on my own.

This is so beautiful. I think most first born children think alike :)

And I love that you view the world as beautiful and it is :) Despite the challenges we face, it is always good to be grateful :)

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Hi thank you for coming to my post. Yes, being grateful is the key for happiness, i think. So, its just better to make the best out of every situation and find something we can be grateful for even if the world split into two.

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I'm the first siblings of five too. And yes there is a big respibsability

!LADY

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Hello @firayumni. The oldest of five does bring a lot of responsibility. I think that the oldest child naturally feels responsible in helping the parents care for and teach the younger ones. Sometimes being the first born brings on a bit of resentment due to the fact that more responsibility is placed upon you. You just want to be a kid too with the rest of them, not corralling them. And younger siblings can be a handful.

When you say:

When i think back, i dont think i ever hate the fact that i am a first born even when i was younger. I always enjoy the fact that i have four lovely younger siblings. They’re always warmed my heart.

That is such a nice sentiment and regard toward the younger ones. I know they look up to you and respect you .

I can feel that you're a wonderful BIG sis!

Thanks for sharing, and take care.

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I think that we can be kids too while helping take care of our siblings. That is why we should never one big responsibility to the oldest alone. My second sister help me a lot during our childhood, so i have never once thinking that i was forced to bear all the burden. And we also try to make everything fun. Some people wants to play with their friends but we 5 siblings enjoy each other’s company the most. So, its not even difficult at all

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Hello Big sis, you are strong and amazing. I agree with you that being a first born has made you become strong and have strengthened. I think first born who are females are second mother's too.

!LADY

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Yes, thank you for coming to my post. I even want to have a girl as my first born because i think that it will be a lot of fun

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Beautiful. I have a girl as a first born. She is everything and more.

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Being a first b9rn is cute but comes with loads of responsibilities 💕

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Hi, I agree wholeheartedly. But it also comes with a lot of good perks, and if we can passed the difficulty phase, we even gain the experience of raising children

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As first born too, i recognize a lot of what you say here. So nice to see that more woman feel that. And beautifull way to look at this challenging world.

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Love your answers,so real...family is everything!
You don't have to expect to be rewarded...nice and precise write up!
!LADY

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