Do Unto Others...
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Many times, we tend to turn or talk about things to favour ourselves especially when it has to do with ourselves at that moment.
We turn the table around and polish the words making it look like it was nothing but a while ago when it involved another person, we talked about it like it was a big deal and we wouldn't do such a thing.
I am very well of the opinion that do unto others what you would want someone else to do to you, which obviously, means to me that as much as I wouldn't want to be hurt by someone because it tends to be painful especially when the hurt is coming from someone very close, I also try as much as possible not to hurt others around me.
It is a conscious effort I have made and even though I don't have expectations from others around me, and I can't tell people how to treat me, it doesn't change the fact that I wouldn't hurt anybody because I know and I have been at the receiving hand, I know how it feels.
So, a few weeks ago, when I was done with the lecture and about going to the attendance sheet from a colleague of mine as it is compulsory to write down your name and registration number in the teacher attendance list, as proof that you were in their class.
While I quietly waited for others who were there before me to be done writing their names, a colleague of mine, who came also to write her name, I got there 30 minutes before her, pushed me out of the way and stepped on me without a word as simple as an excuse to get the sheet so she could put down her name.
I called to her attention that she could have just asked me to excuse her instead of just stepping on me and she pretended like she didn't hear or know what she did as she got the sheet to write her name. I was mad at her, not because she wrote before me who came earlier than her but because she couldn't wait or turn to apologize.
I was mad and wanted nothing but to bash her for being mannerless but, I decided to let it go with the help of my friends around who saw the whole incident.
Who knows when people say "Payback time is a bitch"? yeah, that's exactly what happened.
So, yesterday after we were done with one of our classes that took us hours a presentation actually, I was kind of rushing out of the class to meet up with my friends who were already out waiting for me when I unconsciously and unintentionally stepped on someone on my way out of the class.
When I realized what I did and wanted to turn to apologize for my actions, I realized who it was and the funny part was she was beginning to get upset and in her words, "I should have asked her to excuse me instead of pushing her out of the way" perhaps if it was someone else, I would have smiled and apologized because I talk to almost everyone in my department but when I stopped and realized that it was that same girl who had done the same thing to me and the worst part was I wasn't even in the way unlike her who was in the door post, I ignored her and walked out without even a glimpse of what she was saying who what her face looks like at that moment.
I had a good laugh and it was a heavenly one because who would believe that the same person that couldn't tell me "Sorry" or a simple "Excuse" would be looking for it from me one day as well.
I mean, the payback wasn't intentional or unconscious but it was fun to hear and watch her whine about the same thing she did someone else.
I mean, why do we do to others what we know we can not get or accept when it is dished to us?
Isn't it funny that we can't tell someone a simple sorry but we expect them to tell us? Isn't it funny that we can't forgive others but we want others to forgive us when we hurt them? Why do we dish out to others what we can not eat, why do we talk down or look down on others when we know we wouldn't like it when someone does the same to us?
Although my payback wasn't intentional, I mean, I never had it in mind to do her what she did to me, but it kind of felt serene, interesting, and worthwhile to watch her get angry over my unintentional act.
I mean, let's learn to treat people well, the same way we would want others to treat us.
Dovremmo impegnarci a trattare tutte le situazioni in modo equo, riconoscendo che le azioni hanno conseguenze sia per noi stessi che per gli altri. Non dovremmo minimizzare o esagerare la gravità delle situazioni solo in base al nostro coinvolgimento personale. Mantenere una coerenza e una responsabilità nel modo in cui parliamo e trattiamo gli eventi può aiutarci a costruire relazioni più solide e autentiche con gli altri.