My traditional wedding

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August 7th, 2020

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It's over a year now since my traditional wedding, I wasn't opportune to lavishly enjoy my anniversary because I was barely 2weeks postpartum but well I have more years to celebrate

So small back story

I am Nigerian from Akwa-Ibom state, Located in the Southeastern part of Nigeria with Ibibio as the most ancient ethnic group.

My husband is from delta state, located in the south-south part of Nigeria with Urhobo as the most ancient ethnic group

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Traditional Marriage plays a very important role in the Ibibio society, there are elaborate ceremonies on it before, during, and after the formal handing over of a girl or woman to her suitor.

Most importantly The bride price practice of giving out a ‘long and rich’ list, has been in existence for a very long time.

I desperately wanted a small wedding even when I know it is almost impossible when you have a large typical Nigeria family but I didn't give up, I fought so hard with my family to cut down the guest list and budget

as usual, they never listen but I guess luck was on my side.

The initial date was slated for 9th May 2020 just 2 weeks to the wedding we had a national lockdown because of Covid19

yes I was hurt, everything was in place and this was happening and no one knew when the lockdown would be lifted, I was frustrated, tired, and really sad, it felt like the universe was against me but I found comfort with other brides who were in the same shoes as me and I realized over time it was more of a blessing than a curse.

The lockdown was lifted but with strict safety instructions, at least we had movement and gathering was allowed so Immediately I called my family and we started planning a small wedding, just family with less than 50 guests, then the new date was slated and I finally got the wedding of my dream

A blessing in disguise ☺️☺️

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Everything went on smoothly, from my makeup to my clothes, to the ceremony, fewer guests, social distancing( there was no distance relationship on my face giving me instructions)
The weather was surreal, calm, and sunny even when it rained a day before, with No Aseobi, no cutting of the cake, and all the extravagance. Like I said it was the traditional wedding of my dreams

We just had a small gathering in my father’s sitting room and little refreshments outside.

It felt unreal, who would have thought it would end this way, after the elaborate arrangement I was already wondering if it was my wedding or my family’s.

I didn’t have a typical Nigerian wedding and I am so proud of me, but I would give the full detail of a typical Nigerian wedding in my next blog so you understand my excitement.

Stay tuned



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Awww.. you were a lovely bride!!!
Very pretty.
Your husband must be very proud of you!
Happy 1-year Anniversary!!!

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Wow, what a personal and special story to share with us here on Hive, and what a gift for the world to allow you to have the traditional wedding that you desired.

"It felt unreal, who would have thought it would end this way, after the elaborate arrangement I was already wondering if it was my wedding or my family’s."

You are very blessed, certainly a union of two people is a very private, and personal choice, but it is witnessed and celebrated by so many, it really seems as if the couple is sacrificing a part of their joining to the community! It is a practice of many cultures to expect the couple to have something elaborate for everyone else to get a chance to join in the celebration, to share in the joy, to help create memories of a lifetime for the community. But I am with you, it should above all be a moment in time for the two people who are making an honorable commitment to each other.

Thank you very much for this post.

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@estherscott our traditional weddings can be stressful but good to know you still had the traditional wedding of your dream. And ohhhhh.. Beautiful pictures here!

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Happy one year anniversary and gosh you are beautiful with the wedding dress and make up. Your husband is a lucky man. The fact that Covid changed the rules and regulations for this happy day is unfortunate but by the looks of it, it was a super day and already a year ago. So congrats on the anniversary and yes you will have a long time to celebrate this day. And you can always re do the vows part when you have a bronze celebrationZ

Thank you for blogging in the ladies of hiev community and good luck on the wedding blog you are planning I will for sure read it.

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Thank you for the compliment 🥰🥰.

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You are very welcome and looking forward to the next blog

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Thank you ... the next blog is up already🥰🥰

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