[ESP/ENG] Hablar con un ser querido fallecido/ Talking to a deceased loved one
Hola amigos espero se encuentren muy bien, hoy les quiero contar una experiencia que tuve cuando mi padre recientemente había muerto y que lejos de catalogarse como ¨de miedo¨ a mí me pareció algo muy bonito. Recientemente leí en algún sitio de internet de experiencias paranormales, la importancia de hablarles a las personas fallecidas. La historia la contaba alguien con experiencia en el ámbito forense, pues relataba la importancia de hablarle al cadáver para hacer su trabajo más fácil al momento de desvestir, mover, limpiar y volver a vestir al fallecido.
Hello friends I hope you are very well, today I want to tell you about an experience I had when my father had recently died and far from being classified as "scary" I found something very nice. Recently I read on some paranormal experiences websites, about the importance of talking to deceased people. The story was told by someone with experience in the forensic field, as he related the importance of talking to the corpse to make his job easier when undressing, moving, cleaning, and re-dressing the deceased.
Muchas de las personas que comentaban se reían, otras cuestionaban su historia con fundamentos científicos, los más crédulos, afirmaban lo que este experto forense relataba. Ahora no les pido creer o no, esta es mi historia, mi experiencia.Mi padre, murió en abril de este año, llevaba 7 años sufriendo de Alzheimer, una enfermedad que lo consumió mentalmente, pero que también hizo estragos en su integridad física. Mi papá tenía un apetito insaciable, aunque estaba bien alimentado, siempre lucia muy delgado, a pesar de las vitaminas y medicinas, siempre lucia desnutrido, por decirlo de alguna manera.
Many of the people commenting laughed, others questioned his story on scientific grounds, and the most credulous affirmed what this forensic expert related. Now I do not ask you to believe or not, this is my story, my experience. My father, who died in April of this year, had been suffering from Alzheimer's for 7 years, a disease that consumed him mentally and wreaked havoc on his physical integrity. My dad had an insatiable appetite, and although he was well-fed, he always looked very thin, despite the vitamins and medicines, he always looked malnourished.
El día que mi padre murió, luego de limpiarlo, lo acomodamos en la cama donde el dormía cada día, y yo con mucha tristeza pero con la seguridad de que el aun podía escucharme le comencé a hablar. Mientras acariciaba su cabeza le decía que lo amaba, que podía irse en paz, que mi mama y yo estábamos bien, que era libre, que ya podía estar tranquilo, que podía ser lo que fue antes de su enfermedad. Todas las palaras que salieron de mi fue para transmitirle tranquilidad, para explicarle que el descanso era bien merecido, y que aunque lo extrañaríamos, él debía continuar y transcender.
The day my father died, after cleaning him, we placed him in the bed where he slept every day, and I, with great sadness but with the certainty that he could still hear me, began to talk to him. While I caressed his head I told him that I loved him, that he could go in peace, that my mother and I were well, that he was free, that he could be calm, that he could be what he was before his illness. All the words that came out of me were to convey tranquility, to explain to him that the rest was well deserved and that although we would miss him, he had to continue and transcend.
Nunca me quite del lado de mi padre, y como si fuera algún tipo de magia, el cuerpo y la cara de mi padre comenzó a cambiar. De alguna forma pensaba que la muerte le sentaba bien. Su cara y cuerpo ya no estaban esqueléticos, su expresión era de paz, armonía, casi dibujaba una sonrisa. No puedo describirles como su cara cambio, era mi papa antes del alzheimer, no era ver su cuerpo sin vida, era ver al que fue hace 7 años, solo que con sus ojos cerrados.
I never left my father's side, and as if by some kind of magic, my father's body and face began to change. Somehow I thought death was good for him. His face and body were no longer skeletal, his expression was one of peace, harmony, almost a smile. I can't describe to you how his face changed, he was my dad before Alzheimer's, it wasn't seeing his lifeless body, it was seeing the man he was 7 years ago, only with his eyes closed.
Quiero pensar que mis palabras lo ayudaron en su descanso, lo hicieron irse en paz, tanto así, que él su cuerpo inerte reflejo lo que su alma sintió cuando acaba de morir. No estoy segura que viene después de la muerte, pero quiero creer que hablarle a tu ser querido que acaba de fallecer vale la pena, que ellos, su esencia o su espíritu, por un momento se queda entre nosotros para poder despedirse.
I want to think that my words helped him in his rest, they made him go in peace, so much so, that his inert body reflected what his soul felt when he just died. I am not sure what comes after death, but I want to believe that talking to your loved one who has just passed away is worth it, that they, their essence or their spirit, for a moment stay with us to say goodbye.
Despedir a un ser amado cuando muere es una de las cosas más triste que puedan existir, pero creo que es muy importante tener esa última conversación con ellos, una en la que los hagamos sentir seguros y en paz, en la que ellos se sientan tranquilos de partir. Quise compartir esta pequeña experiencia con Uds., y me gustaría saber si les ha pasado algo similar o han escuchado algún relato parecido al mío. Gracias a todos por leer.
Saying goodbye to a loved one when they die is one of the saddest things that can exist, but I think it is very important to have that last conversation with them, one in which we make them feel safe and at peace, in which they feel at ease to leave. I wanted to share this little experience with you, and I would like to know if something similar has happened to you or if you have heard any similar story. Thank you all for reading.
Sorry to hear about that, I really thought this was going to be scary but it isn't. It's definitely nice to get some closure from our loved ones.
Thank you for your words, yes I think that for us as well as for them, it is the best way to say goodbye.
This is all that matters, you found your peace and so did he.
I can confirm that as I've been in your shoes, unfortunately.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, it's a very sad moment, very surreal, but those last words are so necessary to be able to continue, they with their path and we with our lives.