My Experience Settling Quarrels And Fights

Quarrelling and fighting doesn’t earn reward but breeds hatred, separation and anger within the parties involved. I will be sharing my experience and rules as regards settling quarrels and fight amongst people. It actually starts from quarrel after which proceeds into fight.

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My Experience in settling Fight

During the period of my service, the lodge where I stayed in Nasarawa state, Nigeria had two of its occupants who were friends engaged in extreme fight and no one was around to settle them.

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Though I was at my place of primary assignment when I had this instinct in me to leave for home on my arrival to workplace, I actually thought I forgot something at home but when I checked all my belongings were present with me. I related it to stress and found a place to take a nap but I felt very uncomfortable increasingly the only thing I had to do was go home.

On my way home, I began to realize some sense of relieve and I went back to my work. It started again. This time, I couldn’t bare it anymore but took permission to go back home again.
I never knew that nature can communicate a message to people.

On getting home, I met two of my neighbors that we lived in the lodge together engaged in a serious fight and they were both friends. It got to a point that as I was about entering, I saw one of them go pulled a knife.

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How I resolved it

I was able to take one of them into the room after much attempt though he tore my cloth and he went into the room in the dragging and pushing process, I locked him in from outside. That was when I struck the peace.

It wasn’t easy though because I had to repel them with the best of my ability and the only way of resolving the issue was to involve a higher authority because they were exchanging words despite the method I used.

They were both expelled from the lodge which was a bit difficult for one of them to cope. The other immediately rented an apartment and I was forced to make a plea to the superior authority to permit the homeless one back again.

I found out the following rules as regard stranger fight

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Rule Number 1

I don’t settle quarrel amongst strangers
Life has thought me a lesson, sometimes when two people are quarrelling or fighting seriously and I don’t know them, I peaceably avoid them because the last time I did so, I was about to be robbed. I never knew it was a planned attack. When you are been sighted as someone who is wealthy enough, and would be kind.
The fighting parties would be eager that you come to their aid. Then when you do so, they will always look for a fault from you that came to their rescue then attack you.

The last time I tried it, I had to fight them back. Even when one of them pointed me a gun, (that was when I understand some do it as business) he was careless then we fought and I had to retrieve back my phone from him, collecting the gun back too, threatening to report to the law enforcement agency. They understood I wasn’t new to town and I also came from the jungle too. They called others people to aid recover the gun back. I couldn’t withstand the pressure and handed over the gun to them. That was when i knew gun use to be a bit heavy.

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Reporting to a higher authority

If you notice the persons involved in the fight have been engaging into it from little stage, please ensure you get appropriate agencies like the police to know about it because you may not be around when it will be so intense especially if you are close neighbors. Then when a tragedy happens, we all blame the devil. If its strangers you intend to settle a quarrel you can involve the law enforcement agency as well. The prison is a better correction Centre for fight.

In conclusion

I myself avoid issues that could stir up quarrel by avoiding the person totally. I won’t even greet you again just to maintain silence and peace for the moment because I can’t control my anger. So I don’t allow space that can breed it.

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