Self love has always been a really difficult thing for me. I was always blaming myself for all the things I didn't do right. Rather than learn from an event and move on, I dwell in it and get all bitter and sad. I did try to be around lovely people to enjoy the vibe as well but it didn't work out.

Though people around were full of positive energy, all I was sending out was negativity. I couldn't vibe, I couldn't relate to their glee. It's because deep down I knew I was still bittered. Everything on the outside comes from within. Their happiness came from the inside, they weren't faking it.

There and then I knew I had to solve my problem by identifying the root causes of it.
I took note of the things that made me unhappy and I tried to figure out why. You know about the what, why, when question thing? I put them to practice. Why I'm I sad, what made me so angry, when did this happen? This little exercise helped me understand myself much more. I got to learn and understand why I act the way I do.

I wanted people to love me but I wasn't loving myself, how ironic! People weren't loving me because I wasn't loving myself. You cannot expect someone to do something you aren't doing for yourself for you. I began to treat me better, take care of myself, my health, skincare, treats, everything nice I could think of. I even gift myself random things, yes. It's okay to surprise yourself. Sincerely, it worked for me.

I've come to understand that I'm human and perfection is not possible. I will always be flawed, I will always make mistakes. I cannot control that but I can be careful of how I handle situations, I can control my feelings, I can help myself understand that it was a mistake and I could do better next time. I surround myself with like-minded people, positive people, people who see me, appreciate me, motivate me and help me grow as well.

The positive vibes I give out now is very much contagious. You cannot be around me and not feel good and optimistic. The secret is that you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. So love yourself, your flaws, embrace your imperfections and peace will find you.

Happy Weekend! 😍

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