My Perspective on Marriage (Week 65 Edition 1)

Marriage is understood to be the union between a man and a woman to become a man and wife. The objective of marriage is expected to be for the continuity of life by raising children worthy of being a good ambassador of their family wherever they find themselves. Marriage is expected to be a sweet experience especially in a situation where you get etangled with someone you genuinely love and loves you back in the same measure.

Being a single guy, what I've experienced over the years from married couples shows that marriage itself is not a bed of roses because not just you and your spouse is only involved but your inlaws as well. So, I've seen a situation where a lovely couple became divorced due to the negative energy of their inlaws. Conflict sets in when some inlaws intrudes into your privacy and apportion negative vibes in the heart of one of the spouses. This brings about segregation.

I got the opportunity to live with a couple while i was growing up. They both had a happy home and were happily blessed with 4 children. The first born is a year older than me. We were trained and brought up in the fear of God while the husband loved his wife so much that he always shower her with gifts on her birthday and their wedding anniversary. 25 years after i left these wonderful couples, i overheard from a reliable source that they've divorced. I couldn't believe my ear and decoded to confirm from one of their children who is now an adult of same age range with me. He confirmed that it's true. Couples that had both lived for over 30years got divorced at old age. The man who is in this late 60s has gotten married to a woman who was the cause of their separation. What a life!

Many ladies today now prefer being a siingle mother than getting married and controlled by a man. Most marriages today are not even interesting because many newly wedded couples are divorced due to controversies amongst themselves. A man wants to be a man and in charge while some women tends to claim equal right with their man. They hardly submits to them or takes correction while some men never appreciate their woman. They see them as a baby factory and punching bag (which is not fair). Many home are divided, husbands humiliating their wife and wives humiliating their husbands even at the presence of their children. Emotional blackmail, abuses, and psychological torture have become the order of the day. Many married couples today are not enjoying their marriage and wished they never met who they married. Financial strains and incapacity have led many men to be worthless before their spouse. Many people who claimed they married for love are divorced today. So where is the love? Many are facing hell on earth and yet smiling in pretends that all is well. Marriage which is expected to be a heaven on earth is now becoming the worst nightmare for many married couples today. Despite this, it's critical for the regeneration of lives on earth.

For me, marriage is a beautiful thing because when you marry your right partner you'll definitely have a happy home. Marrying for physiques and money is one of the most common reasons why many marriages fail today. Godliness and contentment are said to be a great gain.

My take is that a man who wants to marry should be physically, financially, mentally and emotionally mature to take right decisions in life. He must be ready to love, overlook situations, and give his all to make things work between him and his spouse. Whilr the woman must be ready to submit to her husband in all things and be willing and able to support him when necessary and by this the home will work well.

So marriage worth the stress but it's never meant to be stressful but rather be a companion to both parties involved. So far it's an institution that helps to raise kids in a socially acceptable way, then it is worth paying the price. Despite this, one should be extremely careful in the choice of a life partner one intends to marry because marriage isn't a bed of roses.

This is my entry to the week 65 episode 1 of the weekly contents.

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