Need help is okay sometimes

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"Life provides ample opportunity to test our mettle. When circumstances call for it, let's give ourselves a break and ask for help" - Gina Greenlee.



This week, even though it was a holiday here on Monday and Tuesday for the carnival, we have been very busy. Next weekend, my son will be going on a trip to attend an event with a delegation from his school.


We haven't had any travel experience since the pandemic started. And this is the first time he will be traveling abroad without us as a minor. So we have also had to apply for a minor's travel permission.

We have been required to do a lot of paperwork and considering that even the simplest things in Venezuela are sometimes complicated. It has put us in a bit of a hurry. I have had to ask for more than one favor these days. The permission was the easiest because although the organizers of the trip have left a lot of things to the last minute, I must say that in the mayor's office where we had to do the paperwork, they have been very kind and have not put any obstacles in our way. They have helped us and facilitated the process even though we didn't have all the requirements on time. Here, we complain and rant when things don't work as we expect, so I think it is more than fair to praise those who do it well and go further and help to get things done.

So yesterday, when I got home exhausted, I was thinking that although I have always liked to help others and I do it whenever I can, without expecting them to return the favor. I have always found it hard to ask for help. And it's not because of a lack of humility or because I think I am self-sufficient. It's more because I'm introverted and shy, and yes, I like to be independent either. But the years and experience have taught me that it's okay to ask for help when we need it.

I think my difficulty in asking for help has a bit to do with the way I was raised and the environment I grew up in too. I was taught that I had to always try to fend for myself and be independent. But I see my son, that no one could say that he is not independent or that he has not tried to get ahead on his own. And yet he has no problem ever asking for help. He has a good group of friends and a great support network. And that's something that fills me with pride because I think that knowing how to recognize when we need someone else is a virtue.

Maybe for him, it's very natural because he grew up in a country that had to learn that having a circle of support was a fundamental condition for survival. When things got tough here in 2017 and 2018, the worst time of shortages. There were not only a shortage of basic products but also medicines and treatments. Getting sick was an ordeal because, in addition to the illness, there was the anguish of getting treatment and medication. The networks and support groups among friends and family were crucial to survive at that time.

Looking back on the situation we have been living in Venezuela for the last 20 years, not many good things have come out of it. But if anything good has come out, it is we learned, at least many of us, that we need to help each other and ask for help when needed to survive.

Accepting that at some point, we will need help to a greater or lesser extent is also part of the process of growing old. I'm terrified of dependency, but I've accepted that needing help sometimes and asking for it is OK.

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The pictures have nothing to do with asking for help. I took them this morning while taking my husband to a recording studio. The plant of Maniguá caught my eyes. The husband can't drive, but he is getting back to his activities. I think that is a great help for him to feel better as he gets back to his normal routine.

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I think that's my reflection for today. Thank you very much for reading.

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I am the same, I don't ask for help, yet I am the first to offer help if I think someone needs it. Crazy huh 🤣
I am glad you are getting Rodrigo sorted and that Carlos is getting out and about albeit with his wonderful supercat chaffeur😋

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Maybe that's why we get along so well, Ed.

Yep, we'll have a rehearsal with Rodrigo flying from home next week. And about the super cat chauffeur 😂 I'm exhausted. I had lost the habit of moving all day in the traffic of Caracas, which has become chaotic again after the years of crisis and then the pandemic. The most stressful thing is the swarm of motorbike riders we have to deal with who do whatever they want.

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Motorbike riders when they swarm in traffic can do what they like it seems, and you have to forever look out for their crazy manoevers. I bet you are exhausted lol
Feet up and have a coffee😁

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I'm drinking so much coffee these days. If I get pricked, I bleed coffee, lol. 😂

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hehe bleeding coffee, I hope no sugar though!

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No sugar. Mi coffee is without sugar unless I add some milk which I rarely do.

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Milk is allowed, after all 🐱

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Jeje, this cat doesn't like milk very much. I do like a latte or cappuccino in a cafe. But at home, no milk to my coffee.😺

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hehe actually i prefer cream or black to milk

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I nodded the whole way through this. You know, there is a lot about the Venezuelan situation that resonates for me in South Africa...

So exciting for the young one, though! So pleased for you all.

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I hope you or any other country will never have to experience, what happened here. For a few years, we lived in a war economy without war.

My son is super excited. And for us, it will be like a rehearsal for what we will experience in a few months.

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I share the same with you, amiga, not wanting to ask for help because of shyness and sometimes, wanting to be as independent as I could be. But then as you mentioned, knowing when to ask for help is a good trait. Excited for your son's travel offshore, and all the best to him :) He must be excited too. Also glad that your hubby is getting back to his activities which means he is getting better :)

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Thank you, Cj! ♡ Oh, yes he is excited! I'm a bit worried though, because of the Covid but I know it will be a great experience for him. And yes the hubby is getting back to his routine and that's great news.

Have a great weekend, amiga!🤗

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It will be an awesome experience for him indeed :) Cheers to you all and enjoy the weekend too, sis😍

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Actually givers find it hard to ask for help because we are so used to helping and giving that's why it's so uncomfortable asking for it.

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That's true, sis! But we must learn to ask for it when we needed as hard it could be.

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I am exactly the same, it takes a lot for me to ask for help! I often get scolded by hubby when I try to do something that he could have done, as I end up with a sore back or shoulder, picking up stuff that's a tad heavy!
Very much of what you say is happening right here in our country as well; red tape everywhere delaying simple things like needing police clearance to apply for a visa to travel to certain countries can take months!
I also like to compliment though, as there still are people who will go out of their way to go the extra mile and help!
Bht...your son sounds like a very special young man and certainly bringing many happy experiences your way.
Enjoy that trip @coquicoin 💞

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Thank you so much, Lizelle.♡
I'm sorry to hear some of the problems we have here are also with you there. We get used to living trying to get around all the obstacles, but it's very tiring at times.
And as for asking for help, although even today, I still find it very difficult to ask for it, at least, I have learned that sometimes I need it and find the courage to ask for it.
Hugs and have a good weekend!

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Thank you and a great weekend to you our sweet Silver Cat lady💞

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I can relate to that feeling of your kid travelling as a minor for the first time but you really don't have anything to worry about.. Your kid will do just fine.. You just have to believe. I bet your kid will enjoy the trip and come back to tell you great stories.

I can also relate to the fact of not wanting to ask for help. I really don't know why I find it difficult doing so. I prefer to help others than asking for help.. I don't know why but I think I love it that way...

Thanks for sharing your reflection for the day with us.

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It will be a great experience for him.
Thank you for stopping by:)

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