Take that trip...

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I was browsing through that social media platform the other day that starts with an "F" and I came across a saying that goes something like this:

You can make more money, but you can't make more time, take that trip!

I know it seems like a simple concept, but putting it into practice can be a more difficult task. We all know that the pressures of being an adult can make the idea of carving out some time for a trip seem insurmountable.

I was just commenting back and forth with @bdmillergallery about this the other day and ever since the pandemic began, @ericvancewalton and I have been lamenting about the seemingly impossible endeavor that is taking a vacation.

It's been a rough couple of weeks for @mrsbozz and I. Actually more @mrsbozz than me, but I have a sympathetic heart, so seeing her go through so much isn't a walk in the park for me either.

It all started with a set of first grade twins from her school building passing away in a car accident. Followed up within one to two days with another one of her students guardian passing away. As if that wasn't enough, we soon received word that a couple of former students had passed away in separate incidents.

On Monday of this week, @mrsbozz got the news that her grandma had passed away and then the next day she got the call that one of the teachers at her school had passed.

Like I said, it has just been a lot.

While sad, her grandma had just turned 101 years old. She lived a full life and had something like 10 kids, maybe 20 to 30 grandkids, something like 54 great grandkids, and 2 great great grandchildren. Definitely a life to be celebrated.

You are probably wondering how all of this ties into travelling. Trust me, I am getting there.

We were at the funeral for her grandmother yesterday and just as it was starting my wife had a full on panic attack. As a school social worker at her building she hasn't been afforded the time to process and work through all of this stuff that is being thrown at her. She has to put on the brave face so she can be the comfort to all of those (staff and students) at her building who are suffering.

Now, you might be thinking shouldn't you be her comfort at home? While that is true, she has to be in the position to want to be comforted by be. All I can do is just be there and when she is ready, she will let me know.

Anyway, like I said, yesterday was just too much and she finally couldn't shoulder it all anymore.

As you can see, now more than ever she really deserves that opportunity to just get away. We have a trip planned for the end of March, but that honestly seems to far away right now. I don't know what to do, between planning, funding, finding someone to watch our dog, and probably a million other obstacles I can't imagine just up and leaving right now.

Then that phrase keeps repeating in my head that I posted above and I know I need to just make the time.

Anyway, I know with Covid hitting certain areas so hard my wife and I don't have a monopoly on loss. My heart goes out to those who have seen even one or multiple family members taken in the past couple of years.

There is an old saying about two things being certain in life and while death and taxes are likely not going away any time soon, I think travel or more specifically just taking care of yourself should be added as a third certainty.


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Wow! Your wife surely has a lot to deal with! I want to say "I'm sorry to hear that" but then I think...yes, that's what everybody says... And no matter what you say...it doesn't change things.

I have a great deal of respect for people such as your wife! As you say, having to be there for other people, and caring for them, she doesn't have the time to deal with her own circumstances.

To get to the topic of your post, this is a typical example of what most of us are facing...we are so busy making a living, that we don't have time to live...

I wish you all the best with taking that trip!

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Thank you, yes, she is one of the strongest people I know, but even she hits her limits sometimes. It is hard to not be able to fix it all for her. Well said, we need to shift our mindset.

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Mrsbozz is in my thoughts that's so much tragedy to deal with in such a short time I do so feel for her

I think you are right being there for her when she needs it is the way you have to be, I know many of us males have an inner tendency to think we should fix and solve things, but more often than not we can't and just being there as a support when needed is the best we can do, a hug at the right time is more powerful than a thousand words

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Yes, you are right on the money with that last part. I thank you very much for your thoughts. That really means a lot!

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Awwww.. Grandmom lived through so much change. My condolence to you for your loss and please pass them along to Mrs Bozz. I still have a grandmother who will be turning 100 this spring. She still lives on her own and what not. No longer drives. One of her biggest thrills is Penn State Football. She's from that area of PA.

Sounds like the Mrs will be processing a lot of the grief this summer when you guys are off. A vacation will be the perfect thing to help. Death, Taxes and Vacation.. Sounds terrible in a way given the circumstances. Taxes are right around the corner too! Yikes.

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Yeah, I am starting to get all of my tax documents together right now for the year. It is going to be a mess I think. I wish there were some clearer guidelines. That is great about your grandmother. I still have some grandparents down in Georiga. My wife's grandma had been living in a rehab home for a while now because she fell several years ago and never quite recovered.

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I'm very sorry to hear about your losses and I hope your wife finds a way to solace and healing. What a tremendous about of loss and struggle these past few years have brought. I totally agree with what you said about self care. It's ironic that it's the toughest thing to do precisely when we need it the most.

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Yes, we have had it far easier than people who have lost multiple family members. It sucks that Covid still has our hands tied in some respects.

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It does suck. I can't wait until this nightmare is over. It really is beginning to feel like we're first phase of the end of it.

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Wow. That's a lot to deal with especially all at once. And I know that this can be very hard on you too.
Health is the first and the most important thing in our lives, so I hope that you guys can take that trip and slow down a bit and take care of yourselves.

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Thank you! I hope so too!

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I like the what you did with tax and death , certainly there’s no end to both. My sincere condolences to @mrsbozz . Best regards!!

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Thanks, I appreciate that as does she. It has been a weird month already. I am hoping the rest of February gives us some peace.

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I’m sure it will , stay safe and stay blessed.

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