Greetings, dear Hivers, how did you start the week? On Saturday I started a poetry workshop, after several years without giving face-to-face workshops and I'm with the vibes super high. What a nice feedback from the group of workshop participants. This week the friends of "Encuentro de talentos" have proposed an interesting topic on which I want to reflect for you:
We start from the following premise:
we came into this world to be happy! And if this is so, why do some of us feel that this does not happen? This is where our own story begins and where we mark our starting point, recognize where we are, how we are and what we are willing to change today."
I think that the subject of happiness is as broad as there are people in the world, everyone has their own notion of happiness, while everyone has their own way of being, their way of being in the world, their way of thinking and acting, influenced by social and family conditioning that are there pushing us in a certain direction. Family, neighbors, friends, educational institutions, the media, social networks, send us messages constantly.
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These messages form a sort of mental archives or models that create certain ideas about happiness, but also about that elusive and changing notion that we can call "fortune" or "success". Because in our minds we often link happiness with success. And success with having material or tangible goods, everything that money can buy or pay for: real estate, cars, clothes, electrical appliances, education, entertainment of all kinds; but also what is necessary to survive: food, medical expenses, personal hygiene.
What happens when our income barely allows us to cover basic survival expenses? We usually feel frustration, we feel that we have failed, because we have not achieved the economic and social status that the consumer society tells us we must have to be successful and happy! Because as I have already said, success and happiness are generally measured socially according to your economic status.
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No my love, it is not like that
But that is not necessarily so. First, because success is changeable. Fifty years ago there was no internet, no social networks and no Silicon Valley millionaires. No one wanted to be an influencer or to be sporting weird and tacky clothes, a tattooed body from head to toe, gigantic gold chains or luxury car collections to be happy. And success as it comes can leave or it can destroy you, take you to the deepest loneliness, fill you with addictions. And this has been a constant in show business. Lives destroyed by success.
Lasting happiness, the one that interests me, does not necessarily have to do with success or social glitter or having a lot of money in the bank account. It is a state of the soul. It has more to do with an attitude towards life, with my ability to be grateful for and enjoy what life gives me every day. My ability to open myself to give and receive, to share those things that make me happy with others. That is happiness for me. It is not that I reject material goods that give me well-being, comfort and pleasure. I enjoy them very much. But the things that really give me joy are those that I can share from the heart, and many of them are free.
Activity with my friends from my Buddhist center, photo from my personal album.
Enjoying with my friends Urimare and Daniel at the restaurant Bajo el reloj, photo from my personal album.
Resiliency
The opposite of happiness is unhappiness. We often get sad about things that have not happened and perhaps will not happen. Or because of the way we approach many situations that happen to us. Every life is full of difficulties, stumbles, losses. But we are not educated to face them with RESILIENCE. Many times situations that make us anxious or angry have a solution sooner rather than later and it was a matter of patience to solve them. Many times we accept situations that displease us or make us unhappy, instead of repeating and enjoying those that make us happy.
Other situations have no solution, such as the death of a loved one, the abandonment of someone we love, the betrayal of someone we trust. Faced with such situations we have no choice but to accept them. Grieve and move on. Mom was widowed five years ago and four years ago she fractured her hip and became disabled. At first it was hard for her to come to terms with both situations. But today she is 94 years old, she was 60 years old with Dad when he passed away and was a very active person even when she stopped walking. I tell you that she often cheers me up when something saddens or worries me. And one of his favorite phrases, which he often says to me is "if you like it, keep on giving it". She says it because she knows that I laugh when she says it to me.
This is mom enjoying a cup cake, photo from my personal album.
responsability
Faced with some situations that make us suffer or impede our well-being, we must honestly confess that we are responsible for them happening to us. If I was not disciplined with a project, if I did not organize it properly, I cannot blame the country, the world economic crisis, bad luck, because it did not go well. I have to assume my responsibility. I admit mine, for example, because in the first quarter of 2024 I had little income. I did not have the discipline or the constancy I should have had to have better income. Let's be honest and change our attitude and we will surely do better. So that limit between living and surviving is usually in our hands. How are you planning your projects, how are you organizing your time, are you really doing what it takes to make them happen? I invite you to do so, my dear.
Thank you friends of "Noche de talentos", see you tonight. I invite friends
@germanandradeg @nanixxx and
@sacra97 to participate in "Noche de talentos". Here is the link to the initiative
https://peakd.com/hive-147177/@talentos/encuentro-de-talentos-sobrevivir-o-vivir and the song I'm going to sing, so they can sing the chorus,"La vida es un carnaval" by Celia Cruz.
Hola Beatriz (@beaescribe).
Mi participación la coloqué esta mañana. Gracias por la invitación.
Excelente tu texto.
Cariños.
Sí, leí tu participación. Te dejé comentario. Vivir es dejar el miedo atrás. Me gustó mucho tu planteamiento. 😀👍
Preciosa exposición de la felicidad ligada a la plenitud de vivir a nuestra manera, concuerdo que todo es tan subjetivo, que no queda otra que forjar nuestro criterio para dejar de sobrevivir.
Excelente publicación, saludos.
Muchas gracias por tu lectura y comentario @getheenspring
Vívidas y alentadoras reflexiones sobre tan complejo tema. Te felicito porque supiste reunir en este post destacadas ideas para seguir viviendo. Saludos, @beaescribe.
Muchas gracias @josemalavem Me alegra que mis reflexiones te hayan resultado alentadoras. Afectuosos saludos desde Caracas
Coincido totalmente en esa manera de ver la felicidad. Un gusto conocer a tu mami a través de esa fotografía y lo que cuentas de ella, que hermosa, bendiciones.
Cariños, @charjaim Gracias. Muchas bendiciones para ti también. 🙏✨✨✨
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