My relationship with parents

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Speaking about the greatest blessings we have in the aspect of parents may make us emotional because we have complex relationships with them. Some sad and happy moments happen in which surprises, debates and experiments may be implicated. So I am going to try answering the questions by @selfhelp4trolls

• What is your relationship with your parents?

Relationships have variance depending upon the position you are having in your family. Elder kids may have few limitations as parents enforce all their rules on them, this case is the contrary for boys in my culture. Middle kids have perfection haha because they have an exemplary demonstration in their family to learn from the errors of elders. Now the last child 🤘🏻😁 all the love is bestowed to this kid. In this case I have to listen to everything about life. The mistake and misbehave my brothers accomplish I have to attend to all this from my mom. They want to speak as they can't control their emotions but what's my misstep in this haha. They always warn me " they have done this now you are going to follow their steps " 🙄😅 and in many cases I perform the same. Lol. This relationship is based on love and fun.

• What role do/did your parents play in your life?

The function which oxygen and hydrogen plays in making water, hehe both are having opposite personalities that's why they influence me in the same way. One is having a traditional psyche and the second one is modern l.My mom is a housewife so she has to indulge the society in everything. That's why each time while taking big decision I already knew Mom is going to oppose this 😁

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Now the second person who is my love my father appears as hero to give me all the permissions 🤭 no matter if I say I have to go for world tour and mom is contrasting. Dad will be

" if she is denying you should do it for sure "🤣

sophisticated relationship Nah. At start I thought this was fun but now after progressing maturity I know mom is straight in numerous cases. So by having both I knew when and where I have to think in which perspective. Both components make me unique. I knew the psyche behind the actions of others. I don't have a one-sided mind and can comprehend the dilemma and have the ability to find out the solution.

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• Has your relationship with your parents changed over the years?

Yes I can't deny the fact that in my childhood I considered my mom as stringent and told her several times that she doesn't love me. She performed discrimination. But finally I have acknowledged that what she accomplished in the past was favorable for me. She didn't authorize me to play in the evening, perform prayers, attend family gatherings, limiting the friendship, no phone and contacts till matriculation . Also she ruled me to remain away from everyone who is from elite class. This made me uneasy many times because these things were not implemented to everyone. I was the only girl who remained away from boys just like they were cactus plants. 😂Hehe later realized she was valid in all these things.

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She adopted a pessimistic version for my bright future. I am not an introvert as I have the best communication skills.

My religious perspective always remained my pride, my hijab and veil dignified me in each case.

And boys 😅 later I realised they are cactus haha. Fun based and temporary things gives you nothing except discomfort and bad memories. In past when my colleagues reported that Anti Shireen doesn't attend parties. I was guilty of this but now I am confident that I have an unusual attitude. I do parties with my mom each weekend and trust me they give me more pleasure than anything else. But in the case of Dad from the beginning till now my relationship remained the same with him.

• Is there anything you wish your parents would do （or would have done) differently?

Yes I want them to go on an adventurous tour hehe but they never committed this because they provide the statement" we can't enjoy without you". Also multiple times I have requested them to get ready comparable to their marriage ceremony and have a photo shoot. But each time they deny my proposal. And they have done unique things to provide us with the best education and training. The community I am having now doesn't allow the girls to go for making their own destiny. Not fulfilling their rights. But mom and dad offered a unique example, by giving me the same preference as my brothers have, from education to property and choice for life partner. I am dominant. I am thankful to them for performing all this uniqueness for me.

• How are you similar to your parents?

I resemble my dad more, hehe cheekbone, nose and chin are identical but my eyes are gifted by my mom. Hehe. Both have short height so I can't credit one of them as I am having average height. But my mom says that on marriage I will have the same look as she had 😂 apart from my physique I have short the temper of my dad 🙈 way of talking is similar to mom as she speaks politely and she has lovely voice 🤭 I don't know much but i have half inherited personality ✌ and half one belongs to me Nah.

• How are you different from your parents?

Now this is my favorite question, decision making power, both take much time but I don't achieve this. I am sharp in this case. They ask each other about things but at the end they are more confused. In the case of shopping, Mom spends a lot of time thinking what to purchase but I am rapid in doing this.Risk taking, they both listen to their heart before doing anything but my mind assists me in this case. Talent, hehe both don't sing but we all sing 🤣 haha. They have no attention for movies or dramas but I have this gut I need these things to broaden my thinking. They don't follow fashion trends but I do fallow 🙈🤭They have never written a single letter but I am a writer and when I compose poems both my mom and dad credit me for this uniqueness. I don't know how the other personality perspective of mine are extraordinary hehe may be this would be self flattering 🙈😁

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• Do you prefer a more involved relationship with your parents or more distance?

I don't know but I can't persist away from them. I have avoided hostel because I wanted my parents. But to some extent in the future I have to survive without them. I can relate this with an example; when I was on a trip I missed their presence and when finally when I was among them I felt our bonding more intense than any time else. The hug I had at that moment gave me the most comfortable feeling. This time I acknowledged their presence and advised them in a better way. So yes in future if I have to remain away from them or we have to encounter a long distance relationship this bonding will become more tight and associated. It's the fact that you can't always remain always close to your loved ones. Situations and conditions so separate you but at the end you are united as your soul is undisputed.

Before I should get more sentiment it's better to complete this discussion, hehe parents are a blessing for sure. They never will desire for your sadness but if you think in this it's better to fit your needs into their shoes. You will realize how much they love you. In the end I would pray for the health of every parent, and if they are not in this world I wish they have higher ranks in heaven. They are already watching and praying for your bright future.