|ESP/ENG| 5 red flags in friendships and people according to me 🚩🚩
¡Holaa hiveers!🚨 En algunas ocasiones creo que es completamente normal, que sintamos que nos quedamos sin una idea que realmente nos guste cómo para traerla a la plataforma, entonces es ahí dónde yo paso bastante tiempo en una especie de lluvia de ideas en mi mente, hasta que doy con algo que me pueda servir. Es así cómo hoy decidí hablar de las red flags. Un término que últimamente se escucha bastante en redes, sobre todo lo veo más en Twitter, y es que hay red flags de todo tipo.
Para ponerlos un poquito en contexto, básicamente son esas actitudes o cosas que descartamos a la primera en una relación laboral, de amistad o de pareja. Son cómo esas cosas que no nos pareces sanas o buenas e inmediatamente es una alerta, como de huye de ahí JAJAJA. Y por eso es bandera roja con esa persona o en ese ámbito. En este caso les contaré 5 red flags para mí en amistades.
Hello hiveers 🚨 Sometimes I think it's completely normal, that we feel that we run out of an idea that we really like to bring to the platform, so that's where I spend a lot of time brainstorming in my mind, until I come up with something that I can use. That's how today I decided to talk about red flags. A term that lately you hear a lot in networks, especially I see it more on Twitter, and there are red flags of all kinds.
To put them in context, basically they are those attitudes or things that we discard at the first time in a work, friendship or couple relationship. They are like those things that do not seem healthy or good to us and immediately it is an alert, like run away from there HAHAHAHA. And that's why it's a red flag with that person or in that area. In this case I will tell you 5 red flags for me in friendships.
1. Cuándo hacen comentarios con mala intención
Esta es la primera red flag para mí, siento que es horrible cuando las personas se ven con el poder de poder juzgarte o algo así sólo porque son amigos o conocidos. O hacen malos comentarios porque creen conocerte o saber todo de tu vida, eso para mí es una alerta roja de personas que no quiero en mi vida. Los comentarios con mala intención siempre vienen disfrazados cómo para que no se mal entienda, pero creo que ed cuándo más uno entiende de que forma lo dicen.
1. When they make comments with bad intentions.
This is the first red flag for me, I feel it's horrible when people see themselves with the power to be able to judge you or something like that just because they are friends or acquaintances. Or they make bad comments because they think they know you or know everything about your life, that to me is a red flag of people I don't want in my life. The comments with bad intentions always come disguised so that they are not misunderstood, but I think that is when you understand the way they say it.
2. Cuándo hablan mal de un amigo que no está
Hay un dicho que dice "cuidate de con quién te desahogas porque hoy son oídos y mañana son lenguas", y aunque suene feo, más feo es tener un amigo que hable de otro cuándo no está presente o divulgue las cosas que le contó. Porque puede ser que algún día seas tú de quien hablen, y nadie quiere eso. Es mejor simplemente alejarse de ese tipo de personas.
2. When they speak ill of a friend who is not there
There is a saying that goes "be careful who you unburden yourself to because today they are ears and tomorrow they are tongues", and although it sounds ugly, it is even uglier to have a friend who talks about another when he is not present or divulges the things he told you. Because it could be that someday you will be the one they talk about, and nobody wants that. It's better to just stay away from that kind of person.
3. Cuándo te humillan para quedar bien delante de un grupo
Esto va ligado un poco con la primera cosa que dije, y es que muchas personas abusan de la confianza por decir ser tus amigos, y cómo quieren ser el centro de atención o algo así te humillan sólo para hacer reír al grupo o quedar bien con los demás, cosa que considero inmadura, y que buen amigo no hace.
3. When they humiliate you to look good in front of a group.
This is linked to the first thing I said, and that is that many people abuse the trust by claiming to be your friend, and how they want to be the center of attention or something like that humiliate you just to make the group laugh or look good with others, which I consider immature, and that a good friend does not do.
4. Que minimicen/invaliden tus sentimientos
Esta es una de las red flags más grandes, con las que yo misma tuve que lidiar en una amistad, actualmente a es persona lentengo cariño pero el trato no es el mismo de antes. Y es que simplemente es desgastante que constantemente te estén diciendo que exageras todo, que realmente no sientes algo o que estás sintiendo mucho. Era súper mal porque esa persona siempre me decía que yo era muy entregada que yo sentía mucho por las personas cercanas a mí y que luego esas personas me dejarían sola y cosas así, me tildaba de loca. Así que nunca permitan eso, las personas a tu alrededor no son igual que tú, ni sienten cómo tú, ni se expresan de la misma forma, así que bandera roja con ellos
4. That they minimize/invalidate your feelings.
This is one of the biggest red flags, with which I myself had to deal with in a friendship, nowadays I am fond of this person but the treatment is not the same as before. And it is simply annoying that they are constantly telling you that you exaggerate everything, that you don't really feel something or that you are feeling too much. It was super bad because that person always told me that I was very dedicated, that I felt a lot for the people close to me and then those people would leave me alone and things like that, he called me crazy. So never allow that, the people around you are not the same as you, they don't feel the same way as you, they don't express themselves the same way, so red flag with them.
5.Cuándo su opinión es la única que cuenta
Yo considero que un buen amigo es una persona empática, que busca conectar contigo de la mejor manera y te apoya a como de lugar, al menos que realmente estés errado y entonces te diga que no tienes razón. Pero no todo el tiempo, porque entonces se vuelve algo en torno siempre a la persona, en dónde si no opinas, o actúas de la misma manera ya estás totalmente mal y dicen que no tienes razón. Este tipo de personas no deberían estar en tu entorno de amigos, es una actitud bastante tóxica y por eso la considero mi última red flag.
5. When your opinion is the only one that counts.
I consider a good friend to be an empathetic person, who seeks to connect with you in the best way and supports you no matter what, unless you are really wrong and then tells you that you are not right. But not all the time, because then it becomes something always around the person, where if you do not think, or act in the same way you are totally wrong and they say you are not right. This kind of people should not be in your friends environment, it is a very toxic attitude and that is why I consider it my last red flag.
Es por eso que les recomiendo ser bastante selectivos con sus amistades, y a la primera actitud rara considerenlo una red flags JAJAJA. Nos leemos próximamente hivers🐝
That's why I recommend you to be very selective with your friendships, and at the first weird attitude consider it a red flags HAHAHAHA. See you soon hivers🐝.
¡Gracias por leer!
Thanks for reading!
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All those 5 key points are indeed true. Although there are times that even if red flags have shown, I give that person the benefit of the doubt but once I feel that person have become toxic, I totally cut them out from my life.
You have indeed brought up some brilliant points in your post. Too often, I think people tolerate bad behavior in their friends when actuallyit shows that these are not really friends at all. I tend to be soft-hearted, and give people too many chances. Second chances are okay. We all can make mistakes sometimes I think. However, I have finally learned to think long and hard before giving a third (or fourth) chance.