Mirror: My best tool for building self-confidence.
What keeps me sane in this insane world? Reflection.
My life is full of busy schedules which means meeting deadlines which can be overwhelming most of the time.
I also have to keep up with house chores, family time, my physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional well-being.
To keep up and strike a balance I developed the habit of self-meditation to keep my mind and soul calm, rejuvenated, and ready for the day.
I usually took those little times of reflection for granted until I lost a very close friend of mine, I guess she died of burnout and eventually Depression.
She used to be a very vibrant lady until suddenly, her profile picture on WhatsApp went blank, and she stopped posting regularly and practically avoided everyone, I noticed and reached out to her but she kept saying nothing was wrong, until one morning I saw a post on her status, "the world is such a lonely place to be" and then I after some days, I saw her obituary everywhere on the net(social media) and I was heartbroken.
Honestly, I used to feel like my life was a mess especially when it's like I'm not reaching my said goals, I used to cry a lot and failed to count my blessing.
But then, I started listening to a show on #Twitter space titled "What do you wanna let off your chest", many people come to rant, cry and share their problems and somehow I started to feel thankful again, thankful because I realized they were people going through worse than I am going through.
Then I learned to take a moment out of my everyday life to reflect, this is not a self-denial of areas I need to work on, but it's also the act of mindfulness and self-awareness.
After I say my morning prayer, it's time to silence the noise from the world. I grab my journal and write what I am grateful for the day, I look around me and stay thankful at least for life, family, shelter, clothing, and every answered prayer. I realized it is because I focused more on what isn't working than what is that made me feel so low in spirit.
Then I ponder on my life and my little wins, while at it this I write down one silly thing I did the previous day and how I intend to do better next time, and then I also write one beautiful thing I did the previous day, it could be going out of my way to put a smile on someone else's face and I commend myself for doing that, I never fail to affirm myself in the mirror, because my mirror isn't just for checking on my appearance, it is also my best tool for boosting my confidence, I stare into my eyes and with these exact words I speak into my existence.
"Amie, you have all it takes to be successful because you're the best, do not let anything or anyone limit you because you can achieve whatever you want if you set your heart to it, you're beautiful, you're conqueror and you can conquer life".
I also create my daily schedule for the day and how I plan to achieve my task without being overwhelmed, this helps me to be organized and focused throughout the day and I never fail to drink my bottle of water every morning which keeps me hydrated and energized and play some cool music to ease minds of my anxiety, I proceed to carry out the daily exercise.
Reflection helps me to understand that failure is a major part of growth, so I am ready to face whatever life throws at me for the day with the right mindset of course.
It also helps me become a better person as I strive to improve my personality.
It also helps me to stay happy and show gratitude for the little things in life by counting my blessing each day despite the chaos of the world.
I have learned to find inner peace in my own company by reflecting every day of my life.
I love reflection time. I love looking at myself in the mirror and would speak positive things into my life. It is what has kept me going and I love it. Though things aren't going fine as we want, but it's necessary to appreciate what we have than complaining of what we do not have. Many people out there are going through tough moment than us.
Also, I wouldn't agree that the world is a lonely place to be. I wouldn't also want to blame those who have committed suicide and taken their lives through depression or the sort. People are facing hard times but thinking of death shouldn't be the option.
Suicide is never an option my sister, I felt heartbroken for not insisting on asking what the problem was, that helped me to reflect more on my life and see reasons to be happy with my life, because I am still better than many out there.
This world is beautiful and there's so much to live for.
Thanks, Bussie💞
You know, I did well on Mirror as a guy too. Those times when I started robbing white powder on my powder on my face. But beyond that, I stand before the mirror and talk sense to myself. Usually, I made it to the mirror before addressing a large crowd during conferences and seminars.
I bet you, you can gain a lot of confidence through the act.
Yeah, talking in the mirror helps one boost self confidence, it's just a good self-esteem booster.
Haha, so you rub powder ehn😹😹😹
Yes ooo. I still do 🤣😂🤣
Quite an interesting read Amie. "I'm fine" is one of the greatest and commonest lies ever told. Many go through a lot and would not speak up like your friend, perhaps they don't trust their neighbors to open up to.
I admire the fact that you routinely reflect on your life, it helps keep you balanced
Perhaps they've been betrayed by those whom they trusted before and now they are too scared to be vulnerable again.💔💔
Well, it was painful but life goes on, I learned to look deeper and count my blessings.
This was so interesting, a situation helped you reflect which in turn helped you to develop gratitude.
Yeah, it did help me to be grateful for life.
Your story has an undertone of a very peculiar and detailed process of daily self reflection which helps you stay grateful and deliberate for your growth.
I guess I still have a long way to go when it comes to being international. This is a beautiful piece
Yes, it is a detailed process of my daily self-reflection.
You too can be intentional if you set your heart to it.
Taking out time to reflect can be very soothing. I reflect a whole lot and I always feel a refreshed pumped after a good reflective session.
If there one thing I want to emulate from you, it's your consistency with drinking water every morning. Our water intake is really important and whenever I read your post, I'm reminded of this:).
This is one of the best lessons one can learn. One can't find elsewhere without unlocking their inner peace.
This was a lovely writeup darling ✨
Thank you always @wongi.
What if you set it as a June goal to drink water every day in the morning?
I can be your accountability partner💙💙
Yes, inner peace is very vital to keep the mind sane in a chaotic world.
I'd absolutely love this💙. It's second June already, I may have missed a days🤧😅. But it's never too late right?.
Very true. I guard my inner peace at every given.
It's never too late.. Shall we?😊😊
Yes we shall😊
Your text makes it clear that being and feeling well is also a question of will, @amiegeoffrey. It is very sad the experience you had with your friend. She was in a depressive process and did not receive help to get out of that state of mind. In your own process you have considered failure for what it really is, an opportunity to learn. Thank you for sharing this life experience and for the relationships with the other writers.
Thanks so much for visiting.
Yes, do not let anyone limit you. The world is harsh but many have made it in harsher waves. We just need to reflect and move.
We do need reflection a lot, thanks for visiting.
One look in the mirror and you are potentially reminded of who you are this can affect negative or positively
Yeah, that's true. The mirror is a reflection of who you are.
Life sometimes becomes a labyrinth with no way out and can suffocate us, but it is up to us to get up and move on to find the way, many things help us to keep the spirit in high and it is in what we must focus.
Thanks for sharing.
Good day.
Self-reflection is an effective way to help us cope with life and its hurdles. Thanks for visiting.
Normally, reflecting on once life gives room for correction, being thankful for what you've achieved so far and eagerness to do better.
Interesting read🙌
Thanks for the nice comment, mirror helps you see your weakness and areas you need to improve while at it, it helps you see your strength and why you should commend yourself.
Thanks for stopping by
Yeah,
You're welcome
With reflection, we reach profound discoveries about ourselves and the world around us. You have a good and well structured daily routine :)
Yeah, reflection helps us discover ourselves. Thank you.