Couple Love- How to Nurture it?

Love is of an innate emotions. Living beings have the understanding of it since their inception. Even a new born and infant displays pleasure in response to love pondered on him. Through out our lives love comes in various shapes with various relationships. We love our parents, siblings, friends, significant others, region, country, religion etc. etc. However, there is a relationship the love of which differs from love with all the other relationships. It is the love with your spouse, your partner, your mate. The couple love involves the elements that are absent in all the other relationship. Something that distinguishes couple love from other relationships is the desire for physical intimacy and sex. No other forms of love accompanies this desire.

Couple love is the form of love that originated in the beginning of mankind. It is the love that made this universe delightful and colourful for man. When Adam was alone in the heavens, even the comfort and beauty of paradise did not appeal him. God created Eve to accompany him and then everything else became beautiful for him. In this way, the couple love became the reason for breeding of generations ahead. Without couple love the continuity of life on earth would not be possible.

Popular ideology that is wide-spread in my culture is that love happens on its own. Once it happens it sustains forever. Movies, novels, dramas, all keep on showcasing this ideology. Nevertheless, I don’t agree with it. Love might happen on its own but for sustaining it, there is a need for putting continuous efforts in it. Love is not a weed that would grow without taking care of it. Love is like a flowering plant and a fruitful tree. It needs continuous care through out its life for its growth. The day we stop nurturing it, it would start facade.

There cannot be a single line formula for every couple to have prosperous love life. Just like each individual is unique, each couple is unique and has its own chemistry. Each individual in every couple has to figure out what works best for it. However, there are certain aspects that can be taken into account in general.

Sex

Because the continuity of life in this world is naturally maintained via couple love and the aspect that serves this function is sex, that is why sex is of unmatched importance in the affairs of couple love. Being a religious-minded person, I am not at all in favour of sex out-of-wedlock (I respectfully disagree with the contrary opinions), however, within the wedlock sex is something that needs to be given undue importance if one wants to maintain and nurture one’s relationship. For a healthy sex life, both the partners need to understand their needs. Sometimes, one may have to make sacrifice in this regard. You might not be in the mood but your partner is. To nurture your love, I would advice you to get indulge and show interest with your partner even if you are not in the mood. This little sacrifice may bring wonders to your relationship.

It is not just the quantity that matters in sex life but also the quality of immense importance. Not every move is equally pleasurable for everyone. To have a better understanding of your partner’s preferences the couple should be opened in communicating about what triggers the sensation and what makes one satisfied. Also, the partners should pay attention to non-verbal cues to get understanding of each other’s desires.

Respect

No relationship can be pleasant if it lacks respect. For being respectful, there is no need to have agreement. In the face of disagreements, a couple need to figure out a point for consensus respectfully. Sometimes , may happen that a dialogue may get hype. In such a scenario, one should back off for a while. After a break, the matter can be discussed again when the blood have its normal flow and the nerves are not pulping hard.

A couple the individuals of which taunt and torment each other would surely lose the strength of its love. It is better to be quiet than to use the taunting words . Show your disagreement with positive words and logics instead of criticism and torture.

Sometimes, it happens that one or both of the partners start speaking negative about their partners in public. This disgrace is a venom to love. Never ever be a reason for disgrace of your partner in public. Whatever problem you have sort it out privately. If an outside intervention has become inevitable (for any reasons), make it respectful.

Show Gratitude

No ones life is without hardships and problems, but there are always something in our lives that deserve to be appreciated. Same is the principle about couples love. You might not be happy with your partner’s certain things, but their surely be things that your partner would be doing good for you. Be grateful in your hear for all the favours your partner provides be no matter how small it may be such as helping in your chores, driving you to your friend, cooking meal etc.

This gratitude shouldn’t only be in your heart but it should be expressed with words as well. You should tell your partner how much value the support he (she) provides you.

Express your love often.

There is no doubt that action speak louder than words. We need to show our love via our support and understanding to our partners practically. However, the expression of love via words and small gestures (like hugs and loveable touches other than bed times or giving your partner’s favourite candy or cooking the favourite meal) are of immense importance.

Express your love by appreciating your partner’s new dress, make over, odour, the efforts that she (he) puts for the family. Tell your partner how much she (he) is important and how you miss her (him) when she (he) is away. Dropping a short message of “I love you” at odd times in your partner’s DM can boosts the attraction magically between you too.

Keep Communicating

Communication is the key for building any relationship. Its importance is multi-folded in the relationship of couples. No one knows what you think, feel and expect until you tell them. Communication is the thing that develops the comfort zone.

Silence is not the solution to anything. In fact, prolonged silence only create distances and misunderstandings. If something hurts you, do tell in a positive way. If you have doubts, clear them by speaking about them. If you have desires, make them heard.

The more you communicate, the better you understand each other. When there is nothing special to talk about, talk about general things like your favourite movie or philosophies or any other incident from past (literally, about anything). It would help building the comfort zone for subsequent conversation.

Communication among couples should be developed on the grounds of trust, understanding and respect. Believe me, if you can tell your partner whatever you want to tell without having the fear of negative reaction your love is real. It is not easy to build up yet not impossible. Both the partners need to learn to put one’s foot in the other partner’s shoe.

Final Words

Love is like a flowering plant. It needs proper care and efforts for its nurturance. Sex is like the seed for the couple’s love. To grow this seed into the plant gratitude, respect and expression of love act like the fertilizer; while the communication is like the water to the plant. Together, all these attributes can nurture the couple’s love into an ideal.

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I agree with you on all the points which you have mentioned and mostly those simple tricks and works of appreciating your partner's work, and each task regarding you and your family. And the most important thing is that to say I love you really attracts your partner.

I just want to say in my opinion that always showing your possession about your partner your love will never fade or even have any bad effect.

And one thing more that if we are able to tell what we want to tell then it is real love but sometimes some shyness also attracts your partner to you and the insisting behaviour by your partner makes the moments more sweet.

For a successful love try to cuddle your partner and always appreciate your partner. Cuddling is the important way to keep your partner close to you and to keep your partner and yourself always in the sweet imaginations of your own.

The sex is another thing but the fantasy has more deliciousness, more sweetness 🥰.

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showing your possession about your partner your love will never fade

Ahaaan! I think it works well within optimum limits. Like if you keep on being over possessive, the problems may arise. Even the spouses need some space for their private lives.

And one thing more that if we are able to tell what we want to tell then it is real love but sometimes some shyness also attracts your partner to you and the insisting behaviour by your partner makes the moments more sweet.

Actually, the point I made was that it is silly to expect that your partner would always know your desires without telling them. They might know some time but not all the time. We have to tell that we expect something from them or there is something that we need. If not verbally, at least the non verbal cues.
Sometimes, it happens that we are angry at our partner for something, but we do not tell them the reason. It is not wise. Unless we tell them what hurts us, they won't know. Do you get what I mean‽??

The sex is another thing but the fantasy has more deliciousness, more sweetness

You made me laugh so hard. Now my question to you is @uop ARE YOU MARRIED? Let me say that I think you are NOT married. Am I right?
You know what.....! Fantasy has sweetness when your partner is not with you or you don't have the right and authority over your love...... When your partner is just beside you, within your access with the right to have sex, fantasy don’t work alone. In such a case if you have fantasy and your partner doesn’t cooperate or neglect you, negative emotions and feelings are inevitable. (MARK MY WORDS! YOU WILL FIGURE OUT THE REALITY WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED)

Thanks for your thoughtful comment uop.
Blessed day

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Hahahaha 🤣😂😂 you got me right and the other thing is that it is sure that we should not hide the things which are hitting us but we should tell yo our partner so that the problems can be solved.

Someone said that silence weakens the relationships. So don't be silent if you want to shout and say anything then do it so that everything becomes clear and your stress may release.

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I think the most important thing in a relationship is respect. Because love alone is not enough.
If I had to choose between love and respect, I would choose honour always.

And the special thing about a good relationship is that they keep their matters to themselves. They do not involve third party in their problems.

So respect, trust and love are both important steps to groom a relationship.
Well-done amber, you choose a good topic.

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Love is nothing without respect. Anyone who claims to love you and doesn't respect you, the claim is fake.

And the special thing about a good relationship is that they keep their matters to themselves. They do not involve third party in their problems.

Very true. I agree.

Thanks for coming around @faiza34

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I agreed, the love without respect is considered to be fake.

Kind of you dear ❤️

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Great post! I can understand many of your points although dont think about them very often!

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Many of us don't think about many things but I am happy that you understand my points. Hehe.

Thanks for stopping by

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You definitely should recognize your partners efforts. Ignoring them will only cause conflict. Thanks for sharing.

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Recognising our partner’s effort also makes us feel blessed and experience more positive emotions it strengthens the bond genuinely

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I've learnt a lot from this Amber! These are important aspects to grow one's love with a partner and I'm thankful for reading this. You're amazing ❤️

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Beautiful description of love. You're right, we have to feed it everyday in all his aspects. Thank you for sharing this with us. 🤗

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You've said a whole lot of things about love and how well to nurture it.

Like you rightly said, it's wrong to speak of your partner in public in a disrespectful way all because they did something wrong to you. And this type of situation occurs when they don't communicate with each other at home.

You've clearly stated it, that communication is key, every couple needs to know this to help them water their relationship everyday.

I'm so glad I got to read this and it's all thanks to you sharing it with us at dreemport.

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Communication is the most important element for building relationships.
Disrespecting your partner in public only makes the two more negative about each other.
I am happy to see ypu on my most, Hope

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Yes, public correction is not the best for couples, not even anyone.

It's my pleasure Amber, it's so good to read from you.

Hope you are having fun with the challenge and even with the real world?

Please stay safe and blessed, enjoy your day 💙💙.

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Love is like the car you want to go out with every day, you must always maintain it by fueling it, washing it, changing the oil regularly, and servicing it when necessary, these things would keep the vehicle functioning well.

When love is not maintained, it ends up collapsing
#dreemport

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It is feeling like the comment is made a motor mechanic. Hehe.

You have given a wonderful metaphor. I loved it.

Thanks for stopping by

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It all comes done to communication to me, you can do everything and show everything through communication!
Great take on how to nurture a couples love Amber!
Popped in vid dreeemport today:)

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What? Why didn't you tell me these things 46 years ago when I got married? Hahahahahaha!!!
One thing I love to do is when she gets irritated I love to tell her to "relax" hahahahahahaha!!!!! Women go ballistic when you tell them that and they are irritated!
I also tried putting my foot in her shoe, she wasn't too happy with that either!!! Hahahahaha!!!
I tried to fertilize her and water her but she wasn't having any of that either hahahahahahahahaha!!!
In all seriousness, this is a fine post, and good reference for a lot of people @amberkashif.
This post was obtained through Dreemport.

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46 years ago. Lol. My parents were not married 46 years ago, so I couldn't tell you this all.

I also tried putting my foot in her shoe, she wasn't too happy with that either!

I think you would be putting foot in her sandal 🤣.... no woman would want you to destroy her sandal this way.

I tried to fertilize her and water her but she wasn't having any of that either

You should have checked your fertiliser and water. They might have higher PH. 🤣

I hope you are having a happy married life.

Thanks for being around 🌹

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