What will they choose!? - Eng & Spa

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Lately I have been meditating a lot about existential issues, but especially about those that have a direct impact on the family. Like every parent, my desire is to raise my children well so that one day they will become useful and respectable members of society, but above all, so that they will live a full life. In that sense, our home is the perfect environment to strengthen worthy values and habits. Reflecting on what happens daily in our home, I found the following examples. These are in some way conflicts or situations that provide the opportunity to learn one of two things. What will they choose?

Últimamente he estado meditando mucho acerca de temas existenciales, pero en especial acerca de aquellos que repercuten directamente en la familia. Como todo padre de familia mi deseo es criar bien a mis hijos de tal manera que algún día lleguen a ser miembros útiles y respetables de la sociedad, pero sobre todo, para que vivan una vida plena. En ese sentido, nuestro hogar es el perfecto ambiente para fortalecer valores y costumbres dignas. Reflexionando acerca de lo que sucede a diario a nuestro hogar, encontré los siguientes ejemplos. Estos son en alguna forma conflictos o situaciones que otorgan la oportunidad de aprender una de dos cosas. ¿Qué escogerán ellos?


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In my home...

  • ...my children learn to be not happy in abundance or to be thankful and content with what they have

En mi hogar...

  • ...mis hijos aprenden a ser infelices en la abundancia o a ser agradecidos y contentos con lo que se tiene
  • ...my children learn to seek revenge or to resolve conflicts peacefully
  • … a mis hijos aprender a buscar venganza o a resolver conflictos pacíficamente
  • ...my children learn to abuse their environment or to be careful with it and improve it
  • ...mis hijos aprenden a maltratar su entorno o a ser cuidadosos con él y a mejorarlo
  • ....my children learn to be frustrated religious people or to be people of authentic faith.
  • ...mis hijos aprenden a ser personas religiosas frustradas o a ser personas de fe autentica
  • ...my children learn to be arrogant or to develop a healthy self-esteem
  • ...mis hijos aprender a ser arrogantes o a desarrollar una autoestima sana
  • ...my children learn to use people for their own gain or to seek the common good
  • ...mis hijos aprender a usar a la gente para su ganancia personal o a buscar el bien común
  • ...my children learn to live lonely lives or to foster and enjoy good friendships
  • ...mis hijos aprender a vivir solos o a fomentar y gozar de buenas amistades
  • ...my children learn to be inveterate hedonists or to enjoy life by helping the less fortunate
  • ...mis hijos aprenden a ser hedonistas empedernidos o disfrutar la vida ayudando al menos afortunado
  • ...my children learn to be shameless opportunists or enjoy the fruits of their labor
  • ...mis hijos aprenden que ser oportunistas descarados o disfrutar los frutos su trabajo
  • ...my children learn to live in the moment or to postpone the reward because investing in the future is better
  • ...mis hijos aprenden vivir el momento o a posponer la recompensa porque invertir en el futuro es mejor
  • ...my children learn to find excuses for everything or to keep their word
  • ...mis hijos aprender a encontrar excusas para todo o a cumplir su palabra
  • ...my children learn how to bully the weak or to protect them, include them and support them
  • ...mis hijos aprender a apabullar al débil o a protegerlo, incluirlo y ser solidario con ellos
  • ...my children learn to tell lies to take unfair advantage or to tell the truth even if it means losing something
  • …mis hijos aprender decir mentiras para sacar ventajas injustas o a decir la verdad aunque signifique perder algo
  • ...my children learn to live in fear in the face of adversity or to find creative solutions
  • ...mis hijos aprender a vivir atemorizados frente a las adversidades o a encontrar soluciones creativas
  • ...my children learn to be insatiable consumers or smart and responsible ones
  • ...mis hijos aprenden a ser consumidores insaciables o consumidores inteligentes y responables
  • ...my children learn to complain or to come up with solutions and get involved
  • ...mis hijos aprenden a quejarse o a aportar soluciones e involucrarse

At home there is the potential for my children to learn many things. But how is it that they manage to learn so much so fast? What is the textbook they use? Am I a good teacher or are they excellent learners? I don't really have to tell them how to do it, they watch me every day.

En casa existe el potencial para que mis hijos aprendan muchas cosas. Pero, ¿cómo es que logran aprender tanto y tan rápido? ¿Cuál es el libro de texto que utilizan? ¿Soy un buen maestro o son ellos excelentes alumnos? En realidad no tengo que decirles como lo hagan, ellos me observan todos los días.

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If I will a dad solo, surely I would make my child the same as you; those values are essential 🥰. I want my child to have the best and be the best in terms of social and attitudes.

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Yes, one of our main responsibilities as parents is to guide our children on the Path of righteousness. It's not easy but worthwhile. Not just for our children but for future generations.

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As a parent, I am thinking about these things too!

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Very nice! 👍

What conclusions have you reached and in what ways do you promote these values?

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Im not such a good example as I am failing in many areas! lol But I think we can only discuss our values and opinions and try to live what we believe in. This doesn't always work though as it can often be that it is more do what I say and not do what I do. The children also have their own personalities and ideas that we cannot influence too much.

However, what I have found helpful to build healthy values and relationships is to keep the kids active (but not overloaded) in local clubs/Vereins where they learn to interact in group situations and do some things with others. This can be sports or other activities.

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Your childrens are blessed to have a father like you!

They will choose the right paths. respect for you and every parents.
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Thank you, @idksamad78699! Those are very kind words of you!

They will choose the right paths. respect for you and every parents.

That is my hope, that they will do that! 😀

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Children learn faster through imitation and it is not until a parent sit them down and start teaching them, many times, it is through what the adults (parents) do that they observe and take note of.

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You're completely right! We teach through our example, and not through what we say. 👍

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I guess kids nowadays are really fast learner.. Technology help them a lot to excell in many ways .

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Correct! We just need to guide them and help them to think critically!

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very well said and salute to you for raising your kids very well. They are lucky to have you as their Dad! ❤️

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Thank you, that is very kind of you to say! I'm trying my best! 🤗

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Hi there... just a quick note! Seeing your post in screening hehehe - the image sourcing is ALMOST right :)

you have your Unsplash link going to a category of images that pulls up many...

but your link should go to the direct image :)

Here is the link for you! so you can update it to go right to the image source :)

https://unsplash.com/photos/dAMvcGb8Vog

I've gone ahead and screened this through for you today though! ❤️

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Hi Dreemie! It's been a long time! I trust you are doing well, yes?

Thank you for the Info in regard to the Pic. I'll go ahead and change that right away! 🤗

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As far as I can tell children (especially the really young ones) learn not by listening and following instructions. They learn by watching what the role models (especially the parents) do and behave in a similar matter.
The fact, that you reflect on those things suggests you are doing a good job already. I think the biggest mistake we might do in parenting is not to consider the impact we have on our loved ones.
By thinking and reflecting about your actions towards and in front of them, you already made the necessary step towards being a good father.
!LOVE

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As far as I can tell children (especially the really young ones) learn not by listening and following instructions. They learn by watching what the role models (especially the parents) do and behave in a similar matter.

I think you are completely right! But not only children, I think adults follow those who "walk the talk" as well.

The fact, that you reflect on those things suggests you are doing a good job already.

It's not easy but I'm trying my best.

I think the biggest mistake we might do in parenting is not to consider the impact we have on our loved ones. By thinking and reflecting about your actions towards and in front of them, you already made the necessary step towards being a good father.

Yes, I agree with you. There is nothing I can add to what you just said. How important it is to be there for our family! 👍

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Kids have this tendency to learn and grasp things quickly from parents and their environment...a home is where we can groom kids and put them in right places. They are smart and very intelligent that's why when we talk to them, we talk more wisdom into them because they eventually do their best in the society.

Allowing kids do their thing they are passionate about is another key because they express themselves and their ability in a fuller way beyond your own expectations.

I admire those principles you listed out cause this shows that you are a loving father and a disciplinary one too.
Interesting piece 🦋

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Hi, @cescajove! Thanks for your comment and powerful reflection! I can't add anything to it. You are right on! Have a great evening!

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Indeed Children don't have Textbooks they learn from but they Learn Always
Reading from @dreemport

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Right, they are constantly learning! That's why parents have to be very aware and conscious of it.

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Thank you very much, @amberkashif!

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It's important to be the example figure that children could learn from by themselves. I !love all the points you listed. Solving conflict peacefully, is an amazing skill if learned in a young age~ The question is how?

Anyway, this doesn't always work...

My aunt values honesty, and she and her husband taught their children to never lie. But when my cousin got into school, he found most of his classmates and teachers lying, and he had an argument with his mother about it: "Why I shouldn't lie to a teacher that lies to me? "

It was sad...

Anyway, the one I'm most interested in knowing how to help children become better at is this one:

....my children learn to be frustrated religious people or to be people of authentic faith.

FOUND on DREEMPORT

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It's important to be the example figure that children could learn from by themselves. I !love all the points you listed. Solving conflict peacefully, is an amazing skill if learned in a young age~ The question is how?

It is now easy but it can be done. We as parents need to set an example. They learn from us. It takes time but if we are consistent we'll have better chances of success.

My aunt values honesty, and she and her husband taught their children to never lie. But when my cousin got into school, he found most of his classmates and teachers lying, and he had an argument with his mother about it: "Why I shouldn't lie to a teacher that lies to me? "

Uh, that is a very philosophical topic! Nice! But I see what you are saying. I don't think other people's wrongdoing excuses my wrongdoing.

Anyway, the one I'm most interested in knowing how to help children become better at is this one:

....my children learn to be frustrated religious people or to be people of authentic faith.

Long subject but at the core is always "congruency". Parents set the example. If we live an authentic relationship with God there is no need to "pressure" our kids to be believers. If they see that is real, I believe they will want it for themselves.

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